[C_Amos]

To whoever the brave woman was.....


Thank you.

I pray that you are well. I pray that you are comforted by the knowledge that your sacrifice has allowed me to grow up in a family that was able to support me.

I pray that you were able to go on and have a family of your own. I am thankful that you did not choose an easier way,

I know so little of you, or your world. I believe you were a student at Cal state and being pregnant in college with your life before you must have been a chore.

I am thankful that you choose to give me my life, and I want you to know that I do not judge you, or your decision. I imagine that your handing me over to another was one of the hardest things you ever had to do.

Were you ever even allowed to hold me? I do not know.

I do know that my mother (the one who adopted me) has loved me. Things have not always been easy, (as they are not for anyone) but she has loved me. You would have been pleased.

I pray that if you read these words they might be a comfort to you.

I have never sought you out, but have been content to respect your decision. My info is posted in a few places, in case you should have ever come to need to know.

I am content to live in the knowledge of who I am. I am the sum of the experiences I have lived, and the choices I have made.

Some are good, others not, but I can not regret them for I am them, and they are me.

I hope you do not regret your choice, for I do not.

Please know that the little one you gave life to, has lived it.

Thank you.

[thesearchguru]

Welcome to the Search and Reunion Message Board!

You might also want to post on the SEARCH AND REUNION BY YEAR (of birth) message board for the best exposure for your search information.







Other great websites to check out:
http://www.adoptionchat.com
http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
http://registry.adoption.com/

[C_Amos]

15/01/69

01/15/69

15/01/1969

01/15/1969

1/15/69

15/1/69


1/15/1969

1/15/1969 .....

What is the right format for dates on this forum?

[thesearchguru]

When using the search option on this website you would need to use all formats. For instance, if you search using 01/15/69 it will only bring up matches exactly like your input. Making a match would depend on what date format the other poster entered.






Other great websites to check out:
http://www.adoptionchat.com
[http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
http://registry.adoption.com/

[C_Amos]

Thanks,












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[C_Amos]

I see people searching in the same area, with slightly different dates.

Was the DOB reflected on the birth cert ALWAYS the actual DOB?

(Social services adoption)

Anyone know?

[lookingfr fam]

Not sure, but I guess it would depend on the situation.

Have you checked the CA birth index to compare what's there with what's on your birth certificate?

[thesearchguru]

Welcome to the Search and Reunion Message Board!

California fortunately is not one of the states that changed the dates of birth or place of birth on original or amended birth certificates. The date of birth on your amended birth certificate will be the same date of birth on your original birth certificate. I hope this helps...






Other great websites to check out:
http://www.adoptionchat.com
http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
http://registry.adoption.com/

[C_Amos]

I wonder if you will grow curious and browse through this listing.

I hope you are well, and at peace with your decision.

I want again to thank you, and wish you a happy 'birthday'.

[C_Amos]

I understand some have filled out a consent form with their agency?

Is this a common practice?

[evildishrag]

What a lovely message to your birthmom. She'll be very lucky to read it.

[lemonadebuddah]

Irony is definately where you find it. My birth mother too was pregnant in 67-68 while attending a Cal State University.

[C_Amos]

I have read of some who leave letters with the agency that would permit release of their information.

Have any of you done this? Are these a potential link to scammers>? Do they become public record? Is there even such a thing?

Thanks in advance

[C_Amos]

lemonadebuddah,

Have you spoken to her?

[beth1965]

what a beautiful letter to your mother. I do hope she comes across it.

Most birthparents haven't filled out consent - often because they aren't aware of the possibility or need to do it. My mother left a letter with the agency - I still can't get the agency to release it to me even though I have met both of my birth parents. If that doesn't show the idiocy of some laws, I don't know what does. Contacting the state, county, or agency is really a great first step.

good luck!