[nurse_reedle]

How did you handle breastfeeding with your expectant moms? Did you even discuss it?

Birth moms, would have wanted to know?

Thanks!

[CeltiaSkye]

I answered in your other thread, but basically yes we did discuss it and the e-mom says she doesn't care. She said that what parenting decisions we make after the baby leaves the hospital are our decisions to make. She's not interested in breastfeeding the baby herself, but has offered to pump while she's in the hospital.

[misidawnrn]

I saw the other thread but it was hijacked by some non supportive first moms.

I am going to breastfeed our little girl when she is born in March. Our emom is in total support of it. I just approached it very nondramatically. I told her I wanted to breastfeed, described the process of the meds and pumping etc and she was very accepting of it. At the hospital I can't have my own room with the baby so that is going to be a little wierd as I don't really want to BF infront of emom. Luckily I work on the OB floor and will be able to nurse behind a curtain in the nursery. Our emom and I have become very close and feel like I can discuss stuff with her about parenting but I told her about BFing right away. Hope that helps. Just be yourself. I don't see why it would be a deal breaker. I think that some of the negative posters haven't come to terms with their own adoptions and would be negative about alot of things.
You could come up with some facts about bonding, the fact that adoptive mom's milk is the same as a woman who just had a baby ten days earlier, that birthmom is better for baby health wise etc. Be educated so that you can educate emom if she has ???
Melissa

[paigeturner]

Originally Posted by misidawnrn

I saw the other thread but it was hijacked by some non supportive first moms.

I am going to breastfeed our little girl when she is born in March. Our emom is in total support of it. I just approached it very nondramatically. I told her I wanted to breastfeed, described the process of the meds and pumping etc and she was very accepting of it. At the hospital I can't have my own room with the baby so that is going to be a little wierd as I don't really want to BF infront of emom. Luckily I work on the OB floor and will be able to nurse behind a curtain in the nursery. Our emom and I have become very close and feel like I can discuss stuff with her about parenting but I told her about BFing right away. Hope that helps. Just be yourself. I don't see why it would be a deal breaker. I think that some of the negative posters haven't come to terms with their own adoptions and would be negative about alot of things.
You could come up with some facts about bonding, the fact that adoptive mom's milk is the same as a woman who just had a baby ten days earlier, that birthmom is better for baby health wise etc. Be educated so that you can educate emom if she has ???
Melissa

I can’t let this post go. I.just.can’t.

I placed my son over 25-years ago and have most definitely come to terms with the choice that I made at the time. The poster asked birth mom’s if we would want to know. Several of us answered yes, because it would not be the right match for us. Negative? Unsupportive? Nope. That’s not it at all. I stated several times that there are expectant mothers who would be open to this. I fully support women who choose to do this, but it wasn’t for me.

So, to state that because some of us didn’t agree with the idea of 1) not disclosing and 2) that we shared that it wasn’t something we were comfortable with, that we haven’t come to terms with our choices so we somehow thrive on negativity is beyond crap.

BTW, threads here morph, just like conversations in real life. That doesn’t mean they’re hijacked by the unsupportive.

Nurse…I hope truly believe you’ll find the right match for your family. And, don’t let us scare you!