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I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY ANYONE WHO DID NOT GIVE BIRTH TO THE BABY WOULD WANT TO BREASTFEED IT I THINK THAT SHOULD BE A RIGHT ONLY FOR THE BIOLOGICAL PARANT AND NOT THE ONE WHO DIDN'T GIVE BIRTH TO IT

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Originally Posted By A DIFFERENT OPINION!

I am a mom to both biological and adopted children. There is no reason NOT to breastfeed if that's what you choose. Why do you feel this way? Your children are your children no matter how they come to you and into your family. Breastfeeding bonds and gives the baby immunities. A mom that breastfeeds an adopted child takes on even more than when it's your bio child. There is alot more to do to get ready.

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Originally Posted By Neil

Doesn't the child have the right to the best possible care and opportunity for life? There are a lot of advantages, to the child, of breastfeeding. I'm tired of squabbles between this adult and that adult about their "rights." Let's start looking at what's good for kids!

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My personal opinion is that it's just another way for the adoptive parents to pretend this child came from them, and not from someone else's body. I'm just a bitter adoptee though, so I'm sure my opinion doesn't count for much around here -- a lot of these boards seem to be a lot of sniping between birthparents and adoptive parents.

[Bogie]

I am so sorry to hear you feel that way. I am sorry for the pain adoption has caused you in your life. Please know that your opinion does count. - Even if others don't agree with you, it's okay for you have your own feelings.

I am a hopeful adoptive mother who is hoping to breastfeed. I would like to make it clear that in no way do I wish to pretennd that our child was biological. Our child's birthparents are EXTREMELY special and important to us, and I would never want to take away the special bond that you can share when you are related biologically.

The reason I would like to nurse our child is because of all the enormous benefits to the child. There are so many studies that show SO MANY healt benefits for the child through breastfeeding. Truthfully, if I were trying to be selfish, I would bottle feed - because now that I've been trying to get my milk to come in, it's lot more difficult than I expected.

Again, I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling. Please don't ever believe your feelings and opinions are not worth anything - they are.

God Bless,
Heather

[Tori Koubek]

I beleive in breastfeeding whether or not you do is your choice but I am breastfeeding my b-daughter right now and trying to adopt since we cannot have more children so if we do get blessed by another child in our life yes we will choose breast feeding. But everyone is entitles to their own opinions.

[debsdone]

I wonder.....what exactly is so wrong about an a-mom "pretending" to be the birth mom? As long as that does not mean lying to the child. Wouldn't that simply mean that the child would receive the same love and affection as a birth child? And isn't that what so many adoptees are complaining about? I don't get the problem. There is no question that breastfeeding is better for a baby. Why create yet another difference? If an a-mom is willing to go the distance to do this, that is amazing. It seems to me that a-moms have to be super women to be accepted as "real" moms. I don't think that is fair. To do what a woman has to do to breatfeed a baby that wasn't born to her, well that is (unfortunately) more than many biological moms are willing to do for their children. Hasn't anyone ever noticed how many really BAD mothers are out there in the world? I know you have all seen them, screaming and beating their kids in the store, leaving them in the car, not using car seats... Well, you get the picture. So I can't imagine why anyone would deny a baby the best possible source of nutrition! JMHO Love, Debi

[C_Amos]

As a (non-bitter) adoptee, I think it is a beautiful idea, and think it is a wonderful thing to have a forum to discuss it.

My mother (adoptive) has loved me and sought to care for me in every way that a mother could care for a child (now 35), just as my birth mother gave me the gift of placing me with my parents who were able to better care for me and in so doing did her best to show her love for me.

There is a ton of clinical research showing the benefits of breast feeding for the child (and the mother) so I say why not!


I am never ceased to be amazed at how wonderfully my Lord fashioned that thing that is a mothers heart.