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Originally Posted By ktp

Anyone looking for a kid born on May 22, 1971?
sassa@gateway.net

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Originally Posted By Family Preston -Georgia

My adopted son will not be searching for awhile if contacted.....my adopted son( my baby) has been having a hard time with lots of other personal issues and this being one of them is not healthy. He's a good kid. He has lots of talents but trying to destroy them is not right. He knows that he is loved by his entire family..... everyone loves him. As his Mother, I raised him well but he is seeking help for something that I did not teach him .....cryingly I say this....my son overdosed and is in treatment to learn to love himself again and realize he's wanted and special to the family. Please don't send any personal contact information if ever in the future at least for now. I am thankful that he did post information but when you don't know more and reading other enquiries, it's inspiring but not when you don't have anything to offer yourself......let down. We will help him and I didn't want anyone to send e-mails because he has received some that have given him thoughts of searching more intensely but too much expectation. Thank you to the webmaster for your help with clues but this is something that nobody should deal with . Bless you and please forgive this message and it will help stop the increasing postings from him because he cannot not answer at this time. Maybe he just when about it the wrong way and in no certain terms is this a desperate plea to get information either. Just letting the webmaster know and again I apologize for this message. Bless other adoptees and continue to fight for what you believe in....hope. All in all, " He's my baby forever no matter who brought him into the world." He's thirty years of age and still feel like a stranger to himself because of this darn word "adopted." God Bless.... Mrs. S.M. Preston , Kyle's mother

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Originally Posted By Kitty

I am so sorry to hear of the overdose. I have a BS born 07/21/71 @ Crawford Long Hospital in Atlanta,GA. It breaks my heart to know that your son is suffering. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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Originally Posted By Carol

I also have a birth son - born in Mesa, Arizona, late on a Sunday in May 1971. My family has many members suffering from various kinds of mental/emotional disorders, so I know something of what your family is going through. I hope this posting finds you all well. It sounds like he has a wonderful, caring Mom.

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Originally Posted By Seems not quite right to restrict...

Of course anyone's heart goes out to a person or family in trouble.

However, a 30 year old man has every right to send and receive emails, and to conduct a search for his birth parents. Forgive me, but you sound a bit insecure, and as though you have always discouraged his search. ("He's MY baby forever" etc...)Prhaps counseling for his problems as well as family counseling would be a nice idea. Consult your doctor, though. I am but a stranger. Be supportive of his search - maybe help him, so he doesn't feel alone. If you have the reourses, maybe you could hire a researcher for him. I'm sure if you helped him find his birth mother, he would love you for it, not have less love for you.

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Originally Posted By noyb

No wonder your son overdosed. He had the right to ask for information and you are stopping a 30 yr old from doing so? You are what I call a Carpet Sweeper. I was adopted into a family just like yours. Lord get me out and stop sweeping things under the carpet, you aren't helping.

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Originally Posted By janette

i am very sorry to hear about your son and i wanted to give you a little inspiration i have been helping my husband for 6 years search for his birth family and we have not succeeded yet it is a long process and takes lots of dedication on the part of EVERYONE my husband was also in to the drugs and alcohol and has done things to himself that noone could have seen coming in my experience with adoptee's this behavior happens alot the adoptee's even though they are loved very much by their families are searching everyone they look at they are thinking "are you my family" it is nothing you did but you can help your son by truely helping him answer any questions that he may have about the adoption or just help him search but at the same time let him know you will always help but you may not find what he is looking for. i have helped 5 people find their birth families and one strikes me the hardest my best friend was searching and i wrote some letters and sent them out two days later her family contacted me and i went with her to meet them we found out there was insest in the family and she was the out come so even though i am still searching for my husbands family he knows that it might not be what he is hoping and he understands that fully and if he didn't i would not be searching. if either of you would like to talk any time about this please feel free to contact me ANYTIME net_1@go.com i will help any way i can
may the great spirit watch over you and your family
janette

[Krystal]

I am sorry to hear about your son, but if he is of age then he has the right to search for his biological family. I have a sibling which was born May of 1971, that I am searching for. Just to let that person know that I love them and mother loves them also. We understand that there is another family The family which has raised that child and given their love, BUT we love them also and want them to know that.

[anngell]

i am looking for my daughter born may 22,1971 in charlotte,nc. i stayed at florence crittenton home, i was 17 when she was born. i am desperately wanting to find her, my step father made me give her i had no choice in the matter.

[johnwalker]

Hello to all,
I don't know when this thread was started, but I just found out about it. I don't know the lady whose son overdosed but let me please say that I fathered a son in Arizona that would probably been born in summer of 1971. I lived in Phoenix for a while, left without knowing that the young lady was pregnant. Heard later while on east coast that a young lady back in Phoenix, Arizona had looked for me, she had had a baby boy. She had told me that her name was Esther , but that might not have been her real name. I had told her that my name was john, but then told her my name was York, and maybe something else.
I have had my son in my heart for years and would love to find him. It does not matter if he has problems. Where ever he is I want to find him .
Whoever reads this post, if you have any clue to helping me fnd my son , you may look e-mail me, send a private message, post: do what ever is necessary.
Thanks, john