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I am trying to find the half brother of my children. Just as I started dating my ex husband, the girlfriend he had just broken up with, had a child, and she had to give the baby up for adoption. My ex had no contact with the woman from the time she told him she was pregnant. He was 17 she was 18 at the time. I used to always ask him if he ever asked her if she had a boy or girl and he said he didn't. I asked him if he was curious and he said no. Well it bothered me our whole life. He divorced me 16 years ago, and through the power of the Internet, I decided to get in touch with his ex girlfriend, who is now 58 years old and has 4 daughters and several grandchildren. In my email to her, I came right out and asked about the baby. She wrote back kind of surprised that I knew about it. Long story short, she had a boy on September 20, 1967 at Middlesex Memorial Hospital in Middletown, CT. Her parents made her give the baby up for adoption, because she already had a daughter that was only about one and a half years old from a previous boyfriend, and they said that she couldn't keep her son. (She hid the pregnancy from them until she went into labor). She doesn't remember for sure what town her father took her to, to sign the papers, but she thinks it was either New London, Groton, East Lyme, Niantic or Old Lyme. (The towns are all near each other). She said she thinks about him all the time. She named him Ronny, and one of the nurses felt bad for her and let her hold him and feed him. Her parents wouldn't even let her have a picture of him. He was her only son. She got married at some point and had two more daughters. Got divorced and remarried again and had another daughter. She said she always hoped he would look for her. She said she never tried to look for him because she was afraid he would hate her. He will be 40 this September 20th 2007. My ex-husband and I had 3 children together, 2 boys and a girl, (and we lost a son in 1978 that was stillborn). So this "little boy" that we are looking for, is now almost 40 years old, and we have no idea where to start looking for him. My children are very curious about him and would be interested in knowing where he is. My children are now 33, 31 and 28. And they all know about "Ronny" I never did tell my ex-husband that I contacted his ex, but she said if my kids want to try to find him, it is okay with her. We don't even know, of course, if "Ronny" even knows he was adopted. But if you are a male that will soon be 40 years old, and maybe you don't look like any of your siblings, or maybe you do know you are adopted, or if someone reading this knows someone that may know him, please respond to this. "Ronny" has 5 half sisters and 2 half brothers that live in different parts of the U.S. Some in Manchester, NH, some in Connecticut, where his birth mother still lives, in the same town she has lived her whole life, Clinton, CT and his oldest sister is in the Air Force and she lives out West right now, and she is already 41 years old. "Ronny also has several nieces and nephews, but only from his birth mom's side. The children I had with "Ronny's" biological father, haven't had any kids yet.

My ex-husband's nationality is all Italian, and the birth mother is mostly of German heritage. They both have very dark hair, (however it is gray now), and olive complections, and both of them have brown eyes. I have seen pictures of her daughters, and they all look like her. My kids all look like their father, (very Italian looking). So my guess would be that Ronny would have dark hair, dark eyes and olive complexion. My ex is almost 6 ft tall but the birth mom is very short, maybe only 5'2" or so. All 3 of our kids are very tall, but "Ronny" may not be as tall because his birth mom was so short.

I don't believe she put my ex-husbands name on the birth certificate, because she said he wanted nothing to do with her when she told him she was pregnant, so she probably just put her name on there. Her first name is Donna. I don't know if I should put her last name on here, unless someone thinks they think they know who "Ronny" is, and they can reply to the post or send a private email to me. Thank you for taking the time to read this.