[DaynaG]

I am looking for my husbands birth mother. She was 19 yrs old and we think her last name was Slocum and her mother/step father lived/lives in South Dakota. Any help or idea's would be great.
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A little more information. We think her name is Victoria Ann Slocum and she was born in 1949, in Oakland Ca. Her father was in the service so they moved around a lot. I am not sure of any siblings, but her mother's maiden name was Hoaglin, or that was at least the start of her maiden name on Victoria's birth cert.

[thesearchguru]

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***Non-identifying information***
Information can be requested from the adoption file by contacting the adoption agency that handled the adoption. The non-identifying report should have most or all of the following about the birth family. If the information you currently have was given to your adoptive parents at the time of your adoption you should request “updated non-id”. Or, if the report does not contain all of the information below contact the agency for updated information:

A. Age of birth parents at the time of relinquishment
B. State of birth of birth parents
C. Marital status of birth parents
D. Other siblings born before the adoptee to the birth parents
E. Physical description of birth parents
F. Ethnicity of birth parents
G. Religion of birth parents
H. Occupation of birth parents
I. Education of birth parents
J. Information about aunts, uncles and grandparents such as ages and occupations
K. Reason for relinquishment


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[DaynaG]

Hi, thanks for the info. We have most of the information already, except for occupation of birth mother, and information on any aunts, uncles, grandparents etc. or reason for relinquishment. My husband has filled out the Consent for Contact already and his birth mother has not tried to find him so far.

We used one of those search places and spent money and got nothing. I sent them a ripping email about their service, that I gave them more information than they gave me etc. (It was a beautiful tongue lashing, I am going to print it and frame it!!) :-) I got some more recent information than what they sent me the first time but I still don't know for sure if it is her. So we are going to send a letter to the first 5 addresses they have on her and hope it is actually the same woman.

Thanks for the help. Any help is great. My husband found her years ago, his friend was a PI, but he told him he didn't want the information. His sister, adopted as well, just found her birth mother and rubbed it in her adopted mother's face about how she found her real mother etc. So my husband didn't want to hurt his parents and never talked to his birth mother. Now of course he is kicking himself, and his PI friend has left CA. Anyway, longwinded post to thank you. Dayna