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Originally Posted By David Jordan

Hello,
I recently signed the open adoption papers concerning my daughter Brianna. I was basicly left with no choice and had to sign or else take a chance in court to defeat the Adoption Petition and possibly loose her completely or if I won then things would return to the status quo. My daughter has been with her maternal granparents and is now adopted by them. It hasn;t been 30 days yet and we are in the "mediation" phase which is followed by the "parent co-ordinating" phase. The adoption agreement spells out 10 weekends a years visitation with extended time as soon as summer of 2002. I was told that durring the "mediation" phase I could work out more time. The adoptive parents are now trying to get me to stick to the wording of the adoption agreement. I was told that visitation would be similar to a divorce visitation agreement. Things are not looking this way. I never had it in my head to adopt my daughter. It was the only way I could be assured to be able to visit her. Any advice encouragement, criticisim or whatever would be useful to me. Thanks in advance. David Jordan moparious@hotmail.com

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Originally Posted By bina

Well, don't lose faith. You can try to negotiate as much visitation as possible... make your case as calmly and convincingly as possible. This is your daughter!! Perhaps over time trust will be built and it will work out the way you want it to. Ten weekends a year is really a pretty decent start.. I'm sure you want more but that's something you can really build on.
Are they full weekends -- like two nights and two days?? If so, that's signficant! I'm trying to look on the bright side with you.
But, bottom line, don't give up. Your daughter will appreciate it later -- how old is she by the way?

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Originally Posted By dawn

I have no legal expertise on this subject, I just wanted to commend you on trying to be any part of your daughter's life. So many fathers don't even go to the extent of what you are doing just to be able to see their kids. Please keep trying to push your rights as her bfather. No matter what happens she will know she was loved by you and that will be the most fullfilling part of her life. Keep fighting for all that you want out of the visitation! Don't ever give up!

[torimom98]

I did a search on "Father's rights". There seems to be alot of information on this. Find out as much as you can, contact anyone you think can help and don't give up. Best Wishes...