[loveajax]

Tmom, awwwww....

The reason I wrote about rescheduling is that I had the same kind of relationship with my grandparents (mom's parents). I grew up in a two family house and they lived in the apartment downstairs. When I lost my papa (I was in college), I literally could not leave my room for weeks....I know people were like, "it's your grandfather, crazy!" but he was like a second dad to me, you know?

I think sending D an email is a good idea. If it were me and DD's birth parents sent me an email saying what was going on, I would just say, "hey, why don't we do it the following weekend?" You guys live so close, you know?

Anyway, I am so sorry you are dealing with this stress and I hope your gpa does well (he has an amazing gdaughter and family!).

[crick]

Can you email D, explain the situation and ask if she'd be willing to meet up a bit closer to the hospital? Maybe there's a park sort of nearby (where no one will see you) and that way you won't feel so nervous if something were to happen?

I'd say reschedule too, I just know it's been a long time between visits and if you think she won't make another visit for awhile, I'm just trying to think of all ways possible to do both.

[bajj]

Just sending hugs. I personally thinkg the truth is best, and if you can't share why you're gone, just say it is something very important or else you would be at the hospital the whole time. That is true, right? You don't have to share waht.

That's JMHO. You're in my prayers.

[MommaKatja]

Oh TG I'm sending you so many hugs and positive thoughts right now. I'm sorry you're having to make this decision.

I think Crick's suggestion of possibly moving it closer to the hospital is a good idea. Not right next door but closer than an hour away.

I hope everything works out with the visit and I will continue to send positive thoughts for Pops.

[lahdh4]

Hey hon, let D know about what is going on. See if she will come closer to you and offer to do errands during that time. See if D comes up with another plan. I know you may not wish to reschedule but in order to be there for the family and not lie to them. (((HUGS)))
call if you need it.

[thanksgivingmom]

Thanks again everyone - I'm REALLY going to try to keep the visit on for Saturday. At this point, the only way I'll TOTALLY reschedule is if something goes wrong Friday. Even if something goes wrong early saturday at least Dee will already know it's a possibility (I'm emailing her today no matter what).

Like I said, I know my Mom's on board with me not hanging around the hospital all day, I just want to feel confident in being away myself. And confident that I can enjoy Cupcake and Dee without mentally being someplace else.

Hey, it's only two of the most emotional things I deal with on one day - how bad can it be?