[thanksgivingmom]

Originally Posted by BrandyHagz

Ok, so we're not all on pins and needles.

I did send my friend a PM - I explained to her why and we'll see what happens there.

As I said, yes, the whole world knows (back home) - but there are some friends on Facebook who do not *know* although, it'd be easy for them to find out if they were looking.

It's a crazy balance between so many different 'sides'.

I'll catch M on IM one day this week and let her know my motivation for not replying openly - and ask her how she prefers I deal with it next time.

I think that's a GREAT plan Brandy!

[BrandyHagz]

Oh and just so I didn't feel like a total tool for crapping out and sending a PM - I asked her a question via PM that I am sure she is glad was asked via PM

So hopefully she wont be all "OH MY GOD YOU GIVE YOUR BABIES AWAY!!!!" which, I have sadly had to deal with.

[browneyes0707]

I think you handled it well. I love/hate Facebook for the same reason.... world is too darn small. There could also be a possibility that M won't even see the wall comment and associate that you did/didn't answer it, there are a lot of people that write on my wall that I take my sweet time responding to. You could also change settings that others can't see your "wall to wall", so even if you answered, she couln't see it anyway

I hate the questions too, even though my DD is not my Facebook friend, I have my family who doesn't know mixed in with people who were there with me in the hospital, B-dad's best friend, and general other people that might remember that the last thing they heard about me was a rumor that I had gotten pg. My standard answer to the kids question is "DH and I haven't started a family yet." It's not a lie, nor does it deny my DD, which makes me guilty as heck