[nxec]

but its an open adopition all im doing cry and blame my sellf jayden who is 3 and graeme who is nearly 5

[Stormster]

Are you ok? I saw you posted yesterday. Did you get responses to that? Ugh I wish I could help you. I'm sorry for what you are going through.

[cetalley]

I am truly sorry and sad this is happening to you. Could you fill us in on the whys' of the boys coming to be placed for adoption. It is a little hard to give you an honest opinion without knowing more. Pray and Love YOUR boys as often as you can...let them know no matter what...YOU will ALWAYS love them....

[jpeel99]

You are in my prayers....

[nxec]

my baby boys were took into care as i found it hard to care for my boys due to graeme who is 5 on 8th october having attachment disorder and found his behaiver exctremally difficult he was always bullying his younger brother who is 3 they were also took into care under neglect i love them so much i was doing everything in my power to get them back i had no support from my family graeme's dad didnt even bother with him jayden dad died when he was 6 months old . i went under assement possible by scoial services but they didnt think i was caple to look after them it eventually went to court and the court decided in the best intrest of the children it would be better if they were placed out side the family they have been seaprated due to graemes speacil needs jayden has now gone to his adoptive home im just feeling down all the time i have contact with jayden twice a yeah and still having contact with graeme once a month

[taramayrn]

Welcome! I am so sorry you are going through this. (((HUGS))))

[cetalley]

Dear nxec, Thank you for being so kind as to give us more info into your journey. You are a very loving Mom , I can tell, you love your boys so so much. Even though this is the toughest thing you will endure in your lifetime, You have the advantage of being able to stay in contact with them. Try to better your life, even though poverty should not be a reason for a mom , to lose her children,nor should the lack of not knowing how to handle a child with deficit disorders, there is counseling for that. Try to advance your education , get a second job if you have to, take some counseling, and show them you can take care of your boys. Have you actually signed parental rights over to the state?, if not ...do not do that, unless it is something you are sure you want. I hope you have a better day today, do not give into depression or lose hope....this , hopefully is temporary. None the less, my prayers are with you and YOU are those boys' mother, never forget that, see them as often as you are allowed and each time you do let them know how much you love them. I wish I could give you a hug..so here it is{{{{HUG}}}}

[nxec]

thanks hun i have started to see councilor now but my depression is really bad as its affecting my sleep and eating

[cetalley]

NCEX, I am happy to here you are seeing a counselor, this will in time help. Have you been able to spend any time with your boys? I hope you will keep us posted on how you are doing...just love them as much as you can and never let them forget that love....

[nxec]

Originally Posted by cetalley

NCEX, I am happy to here you are seeing a counselor, this will in time help. Have you been able to spend any time with your boys? I hope you will keep us posted on how you are doing...just love them as much as you can and never let them forget that love....

thanks hun . graeme is still in foster care so im still seeing him once a month but jayden contact has been suspended until he has settled into his adoptive home