[thanksgivingmom]

So you know that visit I have "coming up"?

Here's the timeline on how that went down if you need to catch up:

7/14/8 I sent an email to D just to say hi, catch up, and see what she thought about another visit.

7/17/08 D sends me an email saying she got my email and is busy and will get back to me with some possible dates that could work.

8/8/8 Having not heard back from her with dates, I sent a reminder about the visit hoping to firm up some plans. I also said that if she changed her mind about the visit/was too busy I understood. I didn't want her to feel trapped into a visit or anything.

8/16/8 I hear back with the two date possibilities. I immediately respond saying that one of the dates is better as I"ll be out of town for the other date. I will be out of town the two weeks leading up to the visit so it would be best if we could plan the time/location before I leave.

9/5/8 Five days ago I sent a reminder email that I would be leaving on Friday (that gave her a week to respond) and that I probably wouldn't have computer access until two days before the date we decided upon.

I still haven't heard back.

If I don't hear back before my vacation what do I do? Just let it go and give up my visit? Be SUPER annoying and keep emailing her? (I'm not real comfortable with that). Use the phone number that she gave me for the first time? (PS That's DEFINITELY not happening, I'm just tossing it out there).

I'm just feeling a LOT of rejection on this issue and understand that yes, maybe she IS just really busy, but I just feel like it's not all that fair (what is though, right?) I'll turn my whole day, weekend, whatever around if I have to because I know when she says "Jump" I'd say "How high????" I'm just trying to get things sorted out and planned and I only had this one little request - to get it done before my vacation.

Do I make a last ditch effort before I go or do I just give up and accept that there won't be a visit when I get back?

[kelceesmom]

Boy, that is kind of annoying isn't. How hard is it to reply? I know we are all busy but it only takes a few minutes.

Here is what I would do: I would email her one last time stating that since I haven't heard back from you I am assuming that all things are ago for our visit. As, I stated before I won't have internet access while I am away so if you do need to change please call me on my cell phone to let me know, otherwise I am really looking forward to seeing you and Cupcake.

[thanksgivingmom]

Thanks Denise! (And such a quick response!!! )

[kelceesmom]

You could probably mushy it up a bit if you wanted!

[lahdh4]

Really agree with Denice. I hate the waiting. and the waiting. and the waiting.

[belleinblue1978]

I agree with Denice. I'm bad at waiting too, we all know that. Besides which, seriously, who is too busy to take TWO minutes and email someone?

[thanksgivingmom]

SERIOUSLY!

I'm not asking for the Great American Novel here! Just a confirmation.

I would gladly take, "Yes, we'll see you then!"

[kelceesmom]

Then go type away girl! And have one heck of a time on your vacation!

[lahdh4]

tell me you all ready sent it. Please.

[JustPeachy]

I think cupcake's mom is being passive-agressive. Honestly. I don't care how busy you are, you can get an answer to someone. I would either send an email saying you are assuming the date you picked is a "go" and give her a time and place and tell her you look forward to seeing her there (include your cellphone if she all of a sudden figures that doesn't work and isn't too busy now to call you to tell you) OR I would use that number she gave you and call her directly. Personally, I don't like making/firming up plans via email, and if she gave you the phone number, I assume it's for you to use, so I would use it.

I hate playing games and prefer to be direct. You have every right to expect basic courtesy and respect when it comes to simple communication. So don't feel badly about asking for confirmation on a firm date and time for your visit.

[thanksgivingmom]

Originally Posted by lahdh4

tell me you all ready sent it. Please.

Ugh, not yet You know even with the best support on the planet (in you guys!) that it's a process for me to actually get it out....

But I know, I know.....

[taramayrn]

Agree with Denice and you better send that email woman!!!

[lahdh4]

I know how you feel.
If you don't hear I will make it a point to get you to a computer next week.

[paigeturner]

I agree with everyone else! SEND the email! I like the idea of you sending the email confirming the meeting and giving her your cell number (again if she already has it) and go on with your plans. How frustrating!

[Stormster]

ditto ditto ditto