[AnxiousMom777]

I am a 23 year old birthparent, gave birth to my beautiful baby girl (whose name is Brianna Hope) on June 15th at 10:03 am after 22 hours of labor. I got to spend some time w/ her and at the same time was meeting the adoptive parents since I was delivering 2 weeks ahead of my induction date. She ended up having to be flown to another hospital to double check and make sure she was just swollen, and I lost the majority of time and pictures I would have got w/ her. Since this happened, the adoptive parents got to pick her up, and I didn't really get to say goodbye. They will be meeting w/ me next week to let me have some time w/ her, but I just don't think it will be the same. I won't get any time alone w/ her...the time I needed...I miss her already..I definitely think this will be the hardest and most difficult thing I've ever been through.

[SchmennaLeigh]

I encourage you to take time for yourself right now and allow "room to feel." There is no doubt in my mind that your emotions will vary from day to day, moment to moment. Allowing yourself room to feel these things is necessary as you begin this journey.

It's not easy. No two ways about it. We're all here for you.

[ermiller]

Have the papers been signed terminating your rights? I can hardly think that everything would be finalized since it is literally just 3 days since you gave birth.

You have every right to see her ALONE if your rights have not yet been terminated or if you are still in the period where you can change your mind.

I'm sorry you didn't get to spend the time you wanted to with her at the hospital. And I hope her aparents recognize this and give you some time alone with her.

[belleinblue1978]

I know just how you feel. My son was moved immediately after birth. I have spent a grand total of four hours alone with him, heck I didn't even touch him first, his adoptive mom, who I had met about an hour earlier did.

If you haven't signed the TPR you have every right to spend as much time with your little one as you want. If they won't let you, make a stink, I sure as heck would.

[thanksgivingmom]

Oh how I hope that you get the alone time with her that you need. I had just turned 24 when I gave birth to and placed my daughter and I never got alone time with her after her immediate birth. On our last visit when she was nearly 18 months her Mom left us alone for just a minute when she went to the bathroom, and even that was precious time.

As Jenna said, explore your feelings and let yourself have them. This is all still so fresh and new, only three days! Journal, share, and take care of yourself.

Please keep us updated on your visit and hopefully on your alone time with your daughter.

Best of luck to you

[Oceans]

I also hope that you get the time you need with your DD. Please do not be afraid to ask for this and explain why. Hopefully your SW / agency will understand how important this is. Hopefully everyone be understanding. If you haven't signed papers then remember YOU are still in control of the situation (if needed).

My thoughts, prayers and heart are with you - Please ask for this ((( Hugs )))

[RavenSong]

I agree with the other posters...please don't be afraid to ask for the time you need to spend alone with your daughter. If you have not signed the Consent to Adoption papers yet, you have every legal right in the world to see her.

Take things one day at a time, and allow yourself to feel the emotions you are experiencing. Please don't try to shove them down deep inside of yourself. Keep coming here to these forums, and talk to us. Many of us have been where you are right now.

[lahdh4]

Put me with the others who say to ask for time ALONE with her.
I had 2 hours and I remember it like yesterday and I crave it like water on others.
Take care of yourself and we will be here for you.

[AnxiousMom777]

I have signed all the papers for the adoption, including termination of parental rights. Since she was flown off and I did not get to spend the time with her that I should have, the adoptive parents asked me if I would like to have some time with her next week.

[SchmennaLeigh]

AnxiousMom, just because TPR is SIGNED doesn't mean that your rights have yet been terminated. It's a court hearing. What state do you live in?

[EZ2Luv]

First HUGS to you!! Now as other pp have said, even though you signed TPR the baby is still not theirs. You have every right to spend as much time with YOUR sweet baby as you need . You can even change your mind (depending on your state) You NEED this time to say good bye. Please speak to the agency or lawyer and see to it that you get to spend time with you baby. Gosh you didn't even have a chance to say hello to her, let alone good bye. You will be in my prayers.

EZ

[AnxiousMom777]

I live in Georgia. I will get to see her on Tuesday, but it is at a neutral location and the aparents caseworker will be there, so at this point, I am not sure whether or not I will get to spend time alone with her, especially since it's a netural location.

[ermiller]

You have ten days from the date you signed before TPR becomes irrevocable. I just checked GA law.

You CAN ask to spend some time ALONE with her and you are allowed to spend time alone with her. She is not legally the aparents child.

I don't know when which day you signed but today is only the 21st of June, so you have at least 4 days. Call up your social worker and say I want to see her, alone. Not in a neutral place. In your home or whereever you choose.

Please don't let them take this away from you. And I'm an aparent, so I can fully understand the aparents' fears about letting you do this but she is still yours.

[AnxiousMom777]

I got to spend time with her today without caseworkers. We weren't alone..the aparents were there, but I still felt like I got plenty of time with her. We plan on doing future visits soon as well.

[taramayrn]

I am so glad you got the time you needed. ((((HUGS))))