[BrandyHagz]

It's ok - this is pretty much a few months old...it's no longer as accute as it used to be.

Thanks tho

[thanksgivingmom]

Months old or no, I am so sorry that it happens ever, to anyone. You may BE okay, but IT'S not okay. Ugh, I am just so, so, saddened by all of this.

[paigeturner]

Brandy,

Wow. I had no idea you were going thru this. This situation is terrible! How you continue in your job during this time, being gracious and fair is beyond me. You are one strong, amazing woman!

[Leigh131313]

Brandy - that is absolutely horrific. Especially after all you have done for that family during this tough time - you have been such a rock for them. I am sad for you, your family and M. It's just heartbreaking.

To whoever said a non birthparent would think birthparents are crazy for saying they'd be devestated/admitted to the psych ward -As an aparent - I don't think devestation over an aparent shutting down an open adoption is anything but a normal reaction!! That doesn't make you crazy - that would make you HUMAN. What an awful thing to have to go through.

There was a time when I worried about things closing down in our adoption - T kinda dropped off the face of the earth for us for a while. She had moved, didn't send us her new addy yet - changes phones constantly so no cell number (and they only use cell phones). Because of where she was at in her life, I was worried. Luckily that was brief.

I would be really heartbroken if she did close things down. I consider her a friend so there is that part of it, but I would hate for what it would mean for my son. He deserves to be able to have his questions answered when/if he has them. He deserves to be able to have access to his entire identity.

I think it would be much MUCH harder on a birthparent.

[belleinblue1978]

Brandy,

There aren't even words, I'm so so sorry.

[sstuart]

I am so sorry. That is awful. And you are so powerless!

[lovemy2boys]

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

I'm sure that non-birth-parents reading this thread will say, "SEE! BIRTH PARENTS ARE SOOOOOOO CRAZY!"

Nope...not at all. It's cruel and heartless to know that someone can do something like that to a fellow mother.

If you're going through this, I'm really, really sorry. (Same goes for you Brandy) I really hope for good things for you both.

[lahdh4]

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

This is the answer I resonate most with... though I'm sure that non-birth-parents reading this thread will say, "SEE! BIRTH PARENTS ARE SOOOOOOO CRAZY!" But I really think I would need some intensive therapy in order to deal with such a blow. And I don't think it is crazy to admit such a thing.

I have been close to this. My therapist has wanted me to go. I kept telling her no. I had to sign a promise that if I wanted to do anything I would call her and go straight to the hospital.


Brandy-- no words.

[bromanchik]

Brandy, Jenna, Opal and whoever else I missed, My heart is aching for you.

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

This is the answer I resonate most with... though I'm sure that non-birth-parents reading this thread will say, "SEE! BIRTH PARENTS ARE SOOOOOOO CRAZY!" But I really think I would need some intensive therapy in order to deal with such a blow. And I don't think it is crazy to admit such a thing.

I wouldn't think this. At all. I could never begin to imagine the heartache. I am so sad for all of you who are going through this.

[ermiller]

Having been on the side of having intensive counseling (not because I relinquished a child since I did not but for assorted other reasons) I know one thing...

Needing intensive therapy/counseling does NOT mean you are crazy. It can be the right thing do at the time. In the end, for me, it saved my life.

I hope anyone who reads this thread realizes this.

And Brandy, I'm so sorry to read of what happened with M and her family. It sounds like a bad situation for all involved.

Jenna, I'm thinking of you. I hope things get figured out...