[taramayrn]

Do you acknowledge your child's adoptive mom on Mother's Day?

[bromanchik]

Yes. I am not as good as she is. (I got my card the day I sent her hers.) But I have sent something or called every year. I am not as good with Father's Day.

[browneyes0707]

Jury's still out for me.

I'd like to because the sentiment is there. But right now we are sort of at an impasse in the relationship. I don't think it would be ill-received, but I've spilled some of my heart out lately and I'm still waiting to follow through as she promised.

And I'm tired of going in circles over it, so I probably wont, tho my horoscope for Sun tells me to reach out to friends who have been distant lately in order to get to problems beneath the service, and that this selfless phase has gone on long enough, and I deserve a relationship of mutual respect and cooperation...

How bout them apples

[thanksgivingmom]

Uh, I did last year, undecided about this year. I don't have her address so I guess it's too late to really send something now as I'm a big fraidy cat and can't even muster the stupid courage to ask her address to do something nice.

Maybe an ecard? Ugh, I don't know...

[RavenSong]

I used to send Mother's Day cards to my son's mom. But I stopped sending them after a few years because they seemed to make her uncomfortable....

[hollyhunter]

I'm terrible about that sort of thing normally. I think d's amom is much better at Mother's day stuff. She always sends the most beautiful thoughtful cards. This year I decided I'd beat her to it and sent her an ecard to be delivered on Saturday. I let her know how much I appreciated her compassion, her sincerety and her patience in dealing with me for one thing. It was a big part of my healing process. Most important though, to thank her for the love she has for our daughter. I'm so glad she didn't screw up our kid!

[browneyes0707]

I thought of the e-card, and may still do it, but most of the ones I saw are kinda cheezy.

Plus, like Raven, I don't want to make her uncomfortable. I'm not very good a judging her reactions to things or knowing what will make her upset

[hollyhunter]

Brown, I got one of those subscriptions. They're a little more classy than the free ones. Not near as cheesy as me trying to make up my own words which I did dispite my cheesyness. I just wanted to make sure she knew reguardless of our ups and downs, we shared a special bond. Luckily, she's the sentimental type!The one I found was actually very cute.

[Emster]

Hope you don't mind hearing from an a-mom here. Last year when my little one was just over one, his mom called me on Mother's day. We'd only had one other phone conversation since his birth, so I was completely shocked and awed. I found it touching and heartbreaking...I mean to think she was wishing a happy day for me and her son...it meant a lot. I was not offended or put off by it at all.

The way I see it, if you feel the sentiment, go for it. If not, that's okay too. At least in our family, it wasn't expected.

And by the way--happy mother's day to all of you!

[thanksgivingmom]

Thanks Emster Of course I don't mind when you give us your two cents!

[crick]

If you are uncomfortable with sending the amom cards, just send them to me. I'll gladly accept them! LOL!

[browneyes0707]

LOL crick!!

I did end up finding a card (and thanks Holly, I did up my membership, and I found a card that I liked!) and I scheduled for her to get it tomorrow (Sat) just in case she would feel as if I was "intruding" on her celebration ( you never know, LOL!)

But regardless of our issues, it doesn't take away from the fact that she is doing an amazing job raising our daughter. And that deserves recognition.

Happy Mothers Day all!!!!! (((HUGS)))

[Tigger27]

Yep, I do acknowledge both mothers of both my/our girls.

I send cards and gifts to both of them each year or try to anyway. This year because of being busy getting ready for my wedding and financial constraints etc., I only sent them both e-cards with an e-gift card instead of going and picking out something for them like I usually like to do.

We usually acknowledge each other each year on Mother's Day .

[lahdh4]

Nope, she doesn't feel the need to say anything to me so I don't feel the need to say anything to her.

it maybe pity and evil but it has been the way I have felt since that first year when Supergirl was about a month old and because I signed those papers made it possible for her to call herself a mom. Sorry if this comes out mean, it is just a super sore spot for me.

[loveajax]

I just sent DD's birth mom an ecard. Boy, it was kind of cheesy (I couldn't find any "normal" ones). I signed it from my DD and also my DH and me (I wonder if it should just have come from my DD?).

I did get a Halloween ecard from her so maybe I will also get a MD card? But if not, no biggie!