[taramayrn]

Jenna's blog post Birth-First Parent Blog - My Adoption-Related Resolutions has got me thinking. I know there are a few areas in our adoption that I want to work on. I realize that I have a sense of responsibility and therefore play a part in how successful the relationship is. So, I've got a few resolutions for our adoption. Things that I promise to do this year to make the adoption and our relationship better. The main thing is to call once a month. What are your adoption resolutions for 2008?

[lahdh4]

To call L more than I do now
To have atleast 3 visits this year

[taramayrn]

Great ideas Leigh - how many times did you see Supergirl this past year? I have such faith in you and know you will be able to acheive these goals.

[thanksgivingmom]

I want to resume my journaling for A...before our visit, and before I started direct communication with D I wrote to A all the time...I want to get writing to her more.

I want to increase the visits also, we just had the one this year, but I think there should be more in the upcoming year.

I want to try harder to assert myself in what I need/want with regards to the adoption...ex. how many visits I want, how often we should communicate, etc.

I blogged about some general resolutions, a few of which apply to adoption as well I believe, so I'll be working on that as well.

Good luck Leigh and Tara in your resolutions as well!

[taramayrn]

Great ideas TGMOM - I know you'll succeed too.

Do alot of birth/first moms journal for their bkids? I have thought of it and have heard of lots who do, but I haven't ever done it.

[browneyes0707]

I too would like to continue journaling more for my DD. I also resolve not to give up when things get tough, and I would REALLY like to get things more consistant with contact, but that takes two people. So I resolve not to take it so personally

[taramayrn]

Ohh, good one brown...

[lahdh4]

I had no visits in 2007

[taramayrn]

Ah, Leigh, I'm sorry....

[thanksgivingmom]

Like I said, I journaled a lot (handwritten) before our first visit - then a little bit afterwards but it tapered a lot. At that point I had started blogging regularly and some of the things I've written will be for her as well, but since blogging I type way more (easier to get away with at work too).

My other adoption resolution is that I'm going to try to trust DD's Mom more. I have had a bad habit of hoping for the best but expecting the worst. I worry that doing that will have an impact on how I allow myself to develop a relationship with her.

[Vogi2002]

I know this is for birthparents....but I decided that I was going to stick out my neck and make another attempt for a relationship with C's bmom. We are hoping maybe things have calmed down & maybe we can work on our relationship & get contact going again...

[lahdh4]

I hope that works for you Vogi.

[thanksgivingmom]

I do too! I think that's a GREAT resolution!!! Good luck!!!

[taramayrn]

Good luck Nat. I am glad to hear you are willing to give it another try.

[browneyes0707]

Good luck Vogi! I hope you succeed!

I understand L, as I have had no pics sent in 2007 either. Hopefully that changes for me as your visits have changed for you!!