[taramayrn]

Hey girls -

So this has been weighing heavily on my mind the past few days. What I'm wondering is how you told your placed child's family about a future pregnancy? When did you tell them and how did you tell them?

Thanks!

[Vogi2002]

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Tara?

LOL

I would say to tell them when you tell the rest of your family, I'm sure they will be THRILLED for you!!

[taramayrn]

I'm not saying anything yet, it's just a suspicion so far.

Thanks Natalie. Hypothetically IF I were pregnant, the baby and T would be full siblings.

[loveajax]

Tara, first of all, congratulations (IF...)!

I know you are probably a little nervous about spilling the beans, but I agree that it would be nice if you could share the news with your child's a family when you decide to share the news generally.

This may seem judgmental and it probably was, but I was a little "freaked out" when I found out that DD's birth mom was pg (she told me when she was 7 mos pg). Not that I didn't think she would and should have other children with DD's birth father (DD also has a full older sis), just that it happened pretty quickly after placement (that doesn't seem to be the case with your child). I just worried about how DD would feel about being the "middle child" in that situation, you know?

Of course, I was really happy for DD's birth family that they have this beautiful new girl. She is adorable! And I realized that the circumstances leading to DD's placement did not change just because of the new baby, and that she is just someone else that DD will know and love.

I hope you have a wonderful pg and I am bet your child's a family will be thrilled!

[taramayrn]

Ajax - thanks for the advice and the good wishes. Our son will be 8 in February, so certainly we haven't "rushed" into another pregancy.

[loveajax]

8 years is a LONG time!!! Will you tell your son yourself? I am sure he will think it's pretty cool to be a big brother! Good luck with everything!

[Vogi2002]

That would be a good idea to tell your son yourself...or with them! If they let you.

I don't know Tara....you are pretty close to them so I would maybe tell them before...or even that you are thinking about another one. Kinda ease them into it.

Congratulations (if of course) You make a GREAT mommy!

[BrandyHagz]

When John and I were thinking of adopting - and moved forward, we told both M and her parents and all of them were really excited about having another child in the family.

When we decided not to go that route - they were supportive and understanding.

When we found ourselves pregnant unexpectedly last spring, they were again very excited - then we we lost the pregnancy - they were again supportive and understanding.

M and her parents have been our biggest 'building our family' cheerleaders - M has always been excited about having a baby brother or sister...and her parents have also been equally excited.

[taramayrn]

Thanks you guys - I know they will be happy for us. I'm sure they've been expecting this for a while.

So is it a good idea to tell his parents first and then make a plan together to tell T and his sister E?

[Vogi2002]

I would think so Tara! I would definetely want to know first - just so I could jump up and down with glee!!

[taramayrn]

Thanks Nat - right now things are fairly early and I'm too cheap to buy a home pregnancy test if I don't have to - so we'll wait a few days and if nothing happens then I'll buy a test and know for sure.

[browneyes0707]

I would say tell them when you tell family, since you have a really good relationship it should all be positive!!

And I think it's a great idea to tell the parents first and then together tell T and his sis.

Thinking great thoughts for you!!!