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#16
08-06-2007, 03:41 PM
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I heart Kendall too!!
Is it just me or are questions being fired off almost trying to catch someone admitting OA is not as great for her family as it's cracked up to be.... And I can't wait to hear your "later" Jenna!
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#17
08-06-2007, 03:55 PM
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I'm going to blog (for tomorrow) on the questions both Brandy and I asked (along with some other key quotes) but for this forum here, I will quote what Kendall, the adoptee, has to say:
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That's her advice to adoptive parents even in light of the hardships they all faced.
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#18
08-06-2007, 04:20 PM
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I really enjoyed sitting in on that! Can't wait to see your blog tomorrow Jenna!
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#19
08-06-2007, 05:24 PM
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I have the SECOND half of the chat log if anyone wants it via e-mail. (They scroll locked the chat, which I didn't know until afterwards, so I lost the first half of the chat before saving. My bad, all.)
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#20
08-06-2007, 05:36 PM
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Ya, me too Jenna.
One thing that Kendall said, which I have also said a number of times (and which I also find frustrating) is that she, as an adoptee in Open Adoption, she can't comment on what it would have been like to have a closed adoption. I wish those in closed adoption subscribed to that same 'thought' - I get so frustrated, as an adoptee raised in open adoption, seeing adoptees in closed adoption commenting about how confused they would have been and how frustrating it would have been. The reality is, it's all speculative. Only those who have lived it can comment on it. It sounded to me like she'd been faced with that attitude a lot (the speculator) because she had a very frank response to the one person who asked her if she prefered one over another. I wonder, if like me, she gets so frustrated at being silenced by those speculators, she often just keeps quiet…? I wish I had the ability to communicate directly with Kendall – I’d like to compare stories/talk about our situations and see how similar they are (emotion wise). She seemed like a big proponent of OA, regardless of the difficulties she faced…which are similar to my own feelings regarding OA and Adoption in general.
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08-06-2007, 07:12 PM
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Brandy; I also got the feeling that she had been faced with the comparison questions before and I think she handled it quite well.
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08-06-2007, 08:07 PM
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I find it interesting though that she says OA is the way to go, and yet she wouldn't know what a truly closed is like either, kwim? Just struck me as interesting since she commented she wouldn't know what it was like.
Often I think that both have "cons & pros" I guess, and like alot of things in life you deal with each as they come. Jenna, I'm curious though so if you do have time to email me the chat transcript, I'd love it! 
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#23
08-06-2007, 08:09 PM
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She also qualified it with "I think" - which I feel is important.
The transcript is up on the site Link: Sign Up If that doesn't work - go to chat.latimes.com and click on it from there
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08-06-2007, 08:11 PM
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#25
08-06-2007, 08:12 PM
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Brandy is so quick!!!
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#26
08-06-2007, 08:15 PM
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Ya...I am...I'm not sure if that's good or not...I think it's not.
I have no life outside of this forum, you know that right?
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