[Roseofnz]

Hi I'm new. i was in a closed adoption, now been open 14 years, my daughter is 27

Since reunion it has been hard for all of us fitting in together.

we now share a grandson, he calls me nana to.

In the early days I would visit them with my younger children at their home, that was and sometimes can be extremely emotional for me.

we became sorta like an exteded family.
My grandson comes to stay, my other kids have stayed there a few times in the past.

we go to family funerals and support each other.
Ap's came to my mothers funeral a few years back where my dtr sat at the front with us she helped to carry the casket with her siblings.
I have been to two of their family funerals where dtrs amum would introduce me as our dtrs "mum", there she sat at the front and carryed her agrandmothers casket. I sat with them after the funeral.

My dtr and her son are very lucky (he is 9) I was even at his birth.

we inclued each other in most things, ap's have been over for a few xmas's and even my grandson has had his last birthday at my home )
we have our insecuties all of us at times

Amum and i enjoy a coffee together at her house.
we meet for a few of grandson events accationaly.

I must be honest i wish i was never coerced into losing my daughter to adoption and her amother always wanted to know me and felt guilty for taking another womans baby.she would walk the streets looking for me
so now we make the most of it and although I'll never be "mum" I am her other mother and she loves me to.