[saxxxy]

The Expecting Mom that we were matched with for 7 months before she decided to parent is the biological Aunt of my daughter. Her entire family was supportive of her decision to place her child with us. In fact, some of them would prefer that she had continued with her plans to place with us rather than choosing to parent.

[Lucy_Mom]

No, absolutely no way. And I'm all for keeping siblings together where possible but I would not place another child with my son's family. My (parented) daughter has been invited there for a weekend and I'm not even comfortable with that.

Lucy

[Eowyn]

Heaven help me if I found myself in the same position as I didn't want to relinquish the first time and there was no reason for me to do so. It happened simply because I was lied to so if I was in the same situation again BUT couldn't parent for whatever reason I would want my child to be adopted by the parents of my first child. I am a strong believer that siblings should be kept together although I do understand this isn't always possible. My dh and I want to adopt and are considering siblings preferably as we do have strong feelings about siblings being kept together. We would ideally love to have a baby in our home but we have an over riding desire to keep siblings together.

[taramayrn]

You know I was just thinking about something that I had never thought about before. My son has an older sister E who was also adopted at birth in an open adoption. Now how would that affect her if I placed a full sibling of my son's into their family? Hmm...

[mom2GRLC]

Yeah, I've thought of that too.

We originally started foster/adopt wanting to adopt a sibling group. Well it just sturned out that we have adopted several children but none of them are biologically connected and we kinda like it that way after all.

But if the situation presented itself we would have to seriously consider it. I personally think it wouldn't disrupt my family it would just add to it. But I can see if the adoptive family was only made up of three kids the child without the bio-sibling might feel left out or MORE different.

[Lucy_Mom]

I've been thinking about this all morning -- and wanted to add that I \ doubt that my son's aparents would be willing to adopt another child of mine, LOL. In fact, i think if we could all have a do-over (given the benefit of hindsight), I don't think they'd take my son again. Adad might but I don't think amom would.

Lucy

[BestLight]

Of course, I don't know the whole story, but that seems really sad to me...

[Free_to_be_me]

I would place another child with the aparents of my first in a heartbeat (within the parameters of our hypothetical situation.) No question. I adore them, we have a great relationship, they are in touch with some of my extended family...

Crazy as this sounds, after I placed my first baby, I would have nightmares about becoming pregnant again and the only thing that would get me back to sleep was thinking "Well, if it happens, I bet they (aparents) would be willing to adopt again." Since the very beginning, I have trusted them and felt at peace because they have been everything I have hoped for.