[Lucy_Mom]

I'm not a huge believer in ESP but I've read some amazing stories of birthparents and adoptees reuniting based on uncanny facts and it's always made me wonder about the connection between birthparents and the child.

I've had a few things happen that I don't believe are just coincidence. Most notable is when my son was about two and I woke up early and I had this strange sensation I was floating and looking down on my son who was lying down. It was very eerie and kind of between that dream/awake state. Anyway, I couldn't shake off an uneasy feeling all day and finally that night I called the aparents. Turns out that morning, at the time I woke up, my son had been just been put under general anesthetic for minor surgery. It really give me a chill when amom said that.

Another was not so long ago -- we hadn't spoken to our birthson for quite a while and we were out shopping and I suddenly turned and said to my husband, "You HAVE to call A." When we got home, he played the messages -- sure enough on the machine was A's little voice telling us to call him soon.

Anyone else had strange things happen?

Lucy

[SchmennaLeigh]

Munchkin is still quite young and hasn't had any surgery so we haven't had those kind of connections. But she has always, even in her no-strangers-anywhere-near-me phase, been comfortable with me.

I love that.

[lahdh4]

There have been a few times. Especially when she was younger when she would have a fussy night and I heard about from my counselor I had wrote down that on the same night she was talking about I tossed and turned and had a really hard time with waking up every couple of hours. Come to find out I still do the same thing so far to this day.

[supershelly]

I hadn't had contact with the adoptive family in quite some time due to some personal struggles and finally broke down one day. When I decided to write to their old address, I was shocked to find them not only there but willing to share my letter with my daughter before her 18th birthday. We have struck up an unbelievable bond through emails. I truly believe this break down of mine happened for a reason since in finding them again I have learned that my daughter has cystic fibrosis and every moment we now have together is very precious to all of us. Always trust that mommy instinct. I didn't realize she was needing me as much as I was needing her. We talk about everything and I'm so grateful that I listened to my heart.

[Free_to_be_me]

I've had a couple things like that happen, too. One was when she was about 3 years old. She had been to my apartment once, about 6 months earlier. We don't talk on the phone often, but I decided to call her one day. They weren't home, but I left a message. When we spoke later, I found out that at about the same time as I left the message, she woke up suddenly from a nap, looked out the car window at a brick building and said "Are we going to visit my birthmother in her apartment?"

I noticed another weird thing the last time we visited. So, when I tap my fingers or fidget or whatever, I have a specific pattern that I usually use. When I was visiting, she started to tap her hands on my leg. She used the same pattern that I use. It had never occured to me that I almost always use the same one, but it seemed really odd that we would share the same rythem.

[DebCsMom]

I haven't seen so much ESP kind of things with our children & their Birth Moms but I have noticed VERY strong bonds right away. Especially with our 6 year old & her older Birth Brother. We see them about once a year. When they get together it si like they have seen each other everyday for their whole lives! Even as a small toddler she & he had the same bond, very close!!!

With our soon to be 4 year old I see SOOOOOOO many mannerisms of her Birth Mom. They way she stands, the way she eats, chews, body movements, etc. We even see some of her Birth grandpa's mannerisms alot. I can't tell you how many times my husband & I have said, "OMG did I just see "M" there" when our daughter does or says something.

Our almost 3 year old is also very close to his birth sister who is 12. She & the 10 year old birth brother spent Easter Break with us for the week. Our son was VERY close to his Sister.

Deb

[mom2GRLC]

My daughters birthmom had some pretty good motherly intuition at one point in particular.

We were just on our way back from Disneyland and we had to switch planes in her birthmom's new state. While we were there at the airport I picked up a cute little t-shirt for her younger bio-sister that lived with her mom. When I showed it to her and told her it was for her birthsister she got really mad. She didn't want to send it to her. she didn't want to talk to her or send her a letter or send her pictures from our trip she was just mad at her birthmom. Which was really strange because I had been feeling so warmly towards her and thinking about her and stuff. I was really suprised to see her express so much anger just out of the blue.

Well, she continued to be angry the whole next week we were home.

Her birthmom wrote us and said she had this bad feeling all day that something was wrong the day that happened.

I wasn't sure if I should tell her about what happened or about her anger or what....so i just wrote her a quick note telling her we got back safely and we would write her again when we got a chance.

I worried about it all week wether I should share that experience with her or not, but felt like she was given that feeling for a reason so I wanted her to know that her feeling was right...not in a phyiscal or sick kind of way but in an emotional way.

It had been a long time since she expressed that much anger towards her. Well, i wasn't to thrilled about the way her bmom handled it but it all worked out in the end.