[SchmennaLeigh]

I know, all too well on a level that I wish I didn't, how this weekend can be emotionally draining for firstparents. How was your weekend? Did you do anything special? Do you need to just blow off some steam (within the TOS!)? Do you need a shoulder to cry on? Do you need to share something special that you received or participated in?

Talk to us. That's what we're all here for: support from those who understand. We're not going to point fingers and say, "But you have x-thing or y-thing in your life and therefore you should have had a great weekend!" Or, on the same note, "Why weren't you sad? Don't you have ANY emotions?!" That's not what this thread is for at all.

It's to openly and honestly talk about our Mother's Day weekends. No judgement. No finger pointing. Some stories will be good; we will rejoice with you. Some stories will be heartbreaking; we will cry with you. I think after an emotionally charged weekend such as this, it's a good thing to "get it all out."

Think of this as your dumping ground for any overwhelming (Good or Bad) emotions.

[Tigger27]

I put that my weekend was overall good because it has had its bittersweet moments, of course, but compared to some Mother's Days in the past I've had since I placed, this one was an improvement for me.

I'm just in a better place emotionally this year and last year with Mother's Day and have a better handle on coping with a lot of things since I've been through counseling and gotten a handle on my issues as well.

I feel like it was a pretty good one even though I had my bittersweet moments also because of all the great support I have. It was great because so many of my family and others that know about my girls acknowledged me today and I received quite a few good Mother's Day gifts - the best ones being from both my girls and their families, of course .

I got 8x10 pictures of each of my girls, cards and from my 3 yr old's family, I got a book I wanted, Mary Kay pedicure kit, a little graduation car ornament, and a gift card. I also got candy from church today for Mother's Day and some bath stuff from some friends. My parents gave me a card and my favorite kind of nuts and my siblings wished me a Happy Mother's Day and asked about my girls and wanted to see their pics and hear about them.

One of the many great things this Mother's Day for me was that my 18 mo old's mom sent me a e-mail wishing me a Happy Mother's Day and acknowledged me as a mom to my 18 mo old. I cried when I read that in the e-mail from her because it meant so much to me and I told her how much it meant to me that she wished me a Happy Mother's Day because I'm a mother to K too. Just to be validated as a mother is one of the best things .

Anyway, more or less, that's been my weekend. All my siblings have come and gone or called today so now we can relax and have quiet time after all those kids being here ack! Where's the frazzled smiley when you need it lol .

Anne

[Montraviatommyg]

I haven't voted as Mother's Day was in March here in the UK. However I do think of so many mothers over this particular weekend due to knowing about it.

Pip

[SchmennaLeigh]

My vote was for bittersweet because, well, it was. I had a great meal for my Mom and MIL (and it turned out PERFECT). I made it to church on time and didn't end up sobbing untilt he end of the service instead of through the entire thing... which is a welcome change. And I got a video from D of Munchkin singing... which was simultaneously wonderful and heartbreaking.

Nicholas, obviously, couldn't tell me Happy Mother's Day but he sure did slobber on my face a lot, giving me kisses.

It was definitely better than the past two years... but still just... bittersweet.

[emilyangel]

I voted 'good overall', but it had it's moments as well.

I work graveyard shift, and had to work Saturday night into Sunday morning. So, on Saturday, I went and got my present (a tattoo I'd been meaning to get for months), and then spent Saturday resting and napping. I worked Saturday night, and got in early Sunday morning.

Sunday, SO got up with the kids, and let me sleep in (the only gift I wanted, and asked for..lol).

We later just spent the day around the house, and stopped at MIL's to drop off her gifts.

Overall, it went well, and felt good, but am feeling a bit down that I have not heard from amom for over 2 weeks.

I left her a message a week and a half ago asking for a new photo. I called once again Friday, no answer. Then left a message Sunday wishing her a Happy Mother's Day.

No answer, no call back. Nothing.

I know they go away for most ANY holiday, so I'm not worried. I suppose, just a bit 'off' feeling that I didn't get even a 2 minute phone call.

[lahdh4]

I put "bad" since I had a session with my counselor, had to deal with the rain that wasn't stopping and still hasn't. The weather isn't helping to put me in a better mood when I have to deal with flooding.

[Free_to_be_me]

I voted bittersweet. Mother's day itself was okay. I talked to my mom and a couple friends called to wish me a happy mother's day. I went to the greenhouse and had my boyfriend buy me some flowers to plant in my yard. It was okay.

Then yesterday I found out some fairly bad health news, so that pretty much sucked. It is definately dealable, but I won't know many details for a couple months.

Today is my birthdaughter's birthday. I plan to call her this afternoon, but I'm feeling a little bummed right now. My tradition on this day is to go out to eat and have fettucinni alfredo, but I don't feel like going out alone and the people I want to go with aren't able to today.

You know, writing this makes me feel like my weekend was terrible, but I know some good things happened. Ummm, I tie-dyed last night. I went out to my property on Mother's day and went for a nice long walk with my guy and my dog and decided where we are going to build our cabin. That was great...

[SchmennaLeigh]

Leigh; it's been raining here as well... and still has not stopped. Needless to say, our lawn is getting somewhat out of control as is my bad mood.

Free; I'm sorry to hear that some medical issues are bringing you down. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. Happy Birthday to your daughter. *hugs*

[janetleigh78]

I voted bittersweet. The apprehension that built up as the weekend grew closer and closer really made it hard for me to send my mom (the amom) a mother's day card knowing that I would not be receiving the same in return.
My husband offered to take me to dinner for mother's day (but had me pick the place and do the reservation grrrr). I picked a high end water front restaurant that isn't at all kid friendly ON PURPOSE. They seated us near this BIG family with kids of all ages and next to a window overlooking a brand new toddler playground. I started tearing up when I asked for a different table. The food was great as always.
I tried everything!! Calling friends, avoiding places with kids, and being as gracious and giving to every single mom I know just to feel that I was not going to let this break me. It was about 6:00 when I called my sister's house. My bdaughter was over there. They handed her the phone. She told me happy mother's day. I couldn't be with her and everything leading up to that point was agony... but for those few moments I felt a lot better. She's my little and I let her know all the time that she's the best thing in my life. For her, I'll try to find happiness forever.

[Lucy_Mom]

I voted bittersweet -- I'm parenting (and was before placing my son) so I guess the happy Mother's Day is what I'm used to. My husband, daughter and I had a nice day.

But this year, far more than previous years, I felt very angry with my son's adoptive mother and the less than "better life" situation my son is in. And a lot of regret that I chose adoption.

Lucy

[lahdh4]

Originally Posted by SchmennaLeigh

Leigh; it's been raining here as well... and still has not stopped. Needless to say, our lawn is getting somewhat out of control as is my bad mood.

Mine is beyond that thanks to the river that runs along my driveway and the back yard. Luckily the driveway is not river level that is a good 10 feet below that but still.
Bad session with Eleanor as she tried to make me feel better and I told her to shut up because I wasn't in the mood to hear it from her. Very quiet, rainy weekend. Glad that it is over.

[lahdh4]

Can I say that this weekend is going better

[lisaann57]

I would have to say..bittersweet for me as well...Im an old timer..my birthkids are both in their early twenties. But still just as hard...Ive met them both and that does make it some easier. I know that they are ok. My family made a big deal out of the day tho and I did feel very special...got some sparkly bling as well. But it would have been more special to hear from my other kids too..big sigh.....oh well whatcha gonna do? This reunion/relationship stuff is hard. Maybe next year...