[KristineM]

What was the defining moment? How did you chose? Did you "interview" many couples? Would you change anything now about your decision to place your child with that particular couple/person/etc...?

[IYAOYASMarineWife]

When I realized that Nathalie was like my sister...We were so alike. I saw what I would want to be if I had all of the opportunities that she was blessed with. And she and her husband loved my two children. Plus, they wanted to be involved in every aspect of the pregnancy. (What was left of it anyways, I met them 2 weeks before giving birth!) They also agreed that I be involved with my son's upbringing.

[banjo]

They wanted the same open adoption that I wanted and they have gone beyond what we originally agree to. They have been great parents. I am sure they have faults - don't we all but I think they have given it their best shot. I looked at a lot of prespective parents files and interviewed about two or three couples.

The only thing that I would change is my decision to place my child for adoption. It was the worse decision I have ever made and has impacted hugely on my day-to-day life. The angst and grief and loss and depression etc has been immense. I would never recommend adoption to any woman unless the child's life was in danger.

[MelissaJohnson]

I started looking at profiles from the agency i went through at around three and a half months pregnant. None of them were what i wanted and i thought that what I was looking for was unattainable. But then i went on another adoptions site for canada and there was my sons mother. I talked to her acouple times asked if I could use her as a sounding bourd for what I wanted she thought it was great so I met her and her husband and I knew.

[SchmennaLeigh]

They had my morals, dreams for a child and personality. They wanted what I wanted for her.

[firstparentblog]

They are like us, just good down to earth people. I wouldn't change for the world who my son's parents are.

[JoEvans]

Fate brought my son's mother, (adoptive) and I together. And it was that day that I knew she was the one chosen for my son.
I would not of changed it for the world.

[teaspoon]

They were the kind of people I would choose for friends. They hold similar values to mine. I felt comfortable when I visitied their home. They also had a strong personal reference, as they are best friends of the daughter of a tusted friend of mine.

[Moongrl22]

I interviewed many couples. I choose the first couple out of Sympathy. They moved me to their hometown and I thought I would be staying with them until I got there and they said you are going to stay with this lady that goes to our church. I went along with it at first. I was there for one week and that was the most aweful stay I've ever went through. I never heard from my baby's potential parents at all. One day when I woke up, I started crying and I couldn't stop crying. The lady called the potential adoptive parents and they woudn't come over but they wanted to talk with me over the phone. I told them I wanted to go home. I'm not comfortable here. I told them I made a mistake. They were pissed off. They started making me feel guilty, telling me we put all this money out to have you stay here with us. I didn't care at that point. The conversation ended and I called one of my dear friends to come pick me up. I left and never looked back. They wanted to sue me for the money they were out. Of course their lawyer told them it was my choice to change my mind. I didn't like changing my mind but I felt I had to listen to my heart. Their are couples out there that careless about what the Birth mother feels and I felt like they were one of them. I didn't matter to them, they just wanted my baby. I was 6 months pregnant.

I went home and I hated how the adoption process made me feel. I didn't want to go through with it. But the agency that I was going through were wonderful and so understanding, they convinced me to keep looking until I found the right couple. They told me sometimes the first couples isn't always the right choice. I started the process over on my own terms. I interviewed potiental parents for my baby not just looking for parents who longed for a child but parents that I connected with. It's sad to say but I felt sorry for the first couple. They just wanted a baby so bad. They had a sad story. You can't base your decision just by that. I did because I didn't know any better. I've never gone through this before. But I am gald I stuck up for myself.
The couple I ended up choosing cared about my well-being and they didn't pressure me. They put my needs first. I felt so much better through the pregnancy. I felt good and I felt more relaxed. You have to TRUST the voice inside yourself. Trust in yourself when you are choosing the adoptive parents. Look at the whole picture not just part of the picture. Many things facture into the decision: Religion, age, profession, where they live, Race, hobbies, do they have children of their own, how long they have been married, find out about their family. What do they do on holidays, birthday's, and look into their eye's do you feel a connection? Every birth mother needs are different but I think MOST of us want the same thing for our baby, "healthy, happy, safe, loving environment". God bless.

[EmorysMamma]

As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I knew adoption was what I wanted. One of the doctors at my gyno's office sat down with me and asked me what I wanted to do. I told her and she mentioned that she knew of a couple who were looking to adopt. There was no pressure at all.

Our local news had just run a story on the couple about infertility. The couple lost 1 daughter at 2 weeks old and also lost twin boys who were still-born. I was so touched by their story that I decided I wanted to meet them. One week later, we met and I totally fell in love with them. The day after the meeting, I called them and told them that I wanted them to parent my bdaughter. I'm so happy with my decision and would not change a thing.