[schatz]

Although I only visit here occasionally, I thought I'd introduce myself. I'm a birthmother to a 4 1/2 year old girl in an open adoption.

The first year was very rocky because her adoptive parents had very little education about open adoption and very little support for it.

Today it is hard to imagine that any of us ever had doubts. I see them 5-8 times a year, a number that has been increasing lately. We live several hours apart so when we visit each other, it's usually for the entire weekend.

I've been spending Thanksgiving with them since the very first year, and this past year, they also invited me for Christmas and Easter. Also this year, for the first time, they came here to attend my annual family Christmas party. It was very special because most of my family lives all over the country, but they all flew in for the party.

Open adoption is always difficult, but I truly believe it is the best thing for my daughter. I think her parents have started to believe in it more as she's gotten older and we can all see the benefits firsthand. I felt that a big turning point was when my daughter started walking and she could choose to come to me instead of it being me going to her all the time.

It's nice to see so many different open adoptions represented here, including so many good ones. It's very different from when I first came to the forums right after I placed. I'd like to think that more people are getting the good of open adoption.

[krystabelle]

I am a birthmother, although I really hate that word right now. My daughter was born April 16, 2007, so just over two weeks ago.
I placed her with a wonderful couple.
I've received emails and pictures so far and talked with the adoptive mother last week over the phone.
I have an open invitation to go see my daughter at their home, but I don't know that I can go through that. I want to, but I don't know that I can.
-Krystal, Finleigh's mother

[j_gruetzner]

I'm jessilynn. I am a birthmother of 3 beautiful children ages 3, 2, and 1 and we are in the middle of a semi-open adoption with them.

[kelceesmom]

I am an adoptive mom. My husband and I entered into an open adoption with our daughters bparents. Unfortunately for us they have decided at this point in their lives not to have contact with us.

[jaenelle]

We are Kati and Vince. We are the adoptive parents in what you would probably call "semi-open" adoption, although it feels more closed to me. We send letters and photos twice a year, and the birthparents said they wanted to send Yuna letters and things but they haven't yet. They also didn't want to meet us when we picked her up. I would really like to have contact with them, because Yuna has several bio siblings I'd like her to know. But I feel that in this case they have the control.

[AnxiousMom777]

My name is Amber. I'm 23, currently 32 weeks pregnant. I am considering open adoption because I feel that will be the best decision for my baby with the situation I am in now.

[staceysberry]

Hi my name is Stacey, and i gave my son up for adoption two years ago. I feel really lucky that I had the oppurtunity to have such a wonderful woman raise my child. We have remained good friends and talk often. Its the little things that are hard on me like not being able to touch him or see him smile when I want. But on the other hand I love her and I love her with my son.

[Little-Angel-Angus]

Hello,

My name is Annie and I am a 20yr old birthmom to a baby boy who is 8 months old tomorrow. I affectionately nicknamed him "angus" while I was pregnant, so thats what I will call him here. I have an open relationship with R and K, his adoptive parents. I picked them from a HUGE stack of profiles when I was five months pregnant. I met them and they came to dr.'s appt. with me. I recieve pictures and updates once a month via email and am hoping to plan our first visit soon. I am brand new to these boards...

Annie

[bromanchik]

Welcome Annie...
Now for the question everyone wants the answer to... Why Angus?

[Little-Angel-Angus]

Haha! Honestly it started as a joke with my sister... I was on another website where they have birth anouncements and someone introduced their son "Angus". My 13 year old sister saw and thought it was funny so she started calling the little bun in my oven Angus... unfortunately for the poor little guy it stuck.

[bromanchik]

Ever see 4 weddings and a funeral? That what I thought of.

[sborsch]

No have not seen it. why did you think of that?

tell me more about you.

[bromanchik]

Originally Posted by sborsch

No have not seen it. why did you think of that?

tell me more about you.

Angus was the groom in the first wedding. It really is a funny movie. British humor.

I am a birthmom in a fully open adoption. My son is 23 years old. (A pioneer of sorts)

I have also done some writing and speaking on open adoption issues as well. Google my name if you're interested.

[Little-Angel-Angus]

Nope I haven't seen it..
But now i'm curious!

[LilyPadJumper]

My name is Brooke, I am 31 and am a birthmother.

Zachary was born one month ago, and I handed him to his adoptive parents two weeks later. I am currently struggling to work through how to manage the open adoption waters. So, I came here to try and see how all of you are handling it.

So glad this is here. I placed twins for adoption ten years ago, in a semi-open adoption, and never had any resources to fall back on.