[lahdh4]

Not legally binding but the agency wrote up an agreement and we all signed it and if we wanted to the bdad and myself could have gone to court to have it legal but we decided to go with good faith in that the aparents would stick to the agreement that was written up for our daughter.

Leigh

[m-mom]

We have a contract that's not legally binding and have stayed close to the guidelines. They gave me twice as many visits the first year cause i was such a wreck, which i greatly appreciated.

One thing that bothers me is the contract specificly states that visitation is to be iniciated by me. When i signed it at age 16 I didnt notice that detail and now 10 years later I am frustrated that everything is put on me, and it's hard to maintain a relationship that is onesided. I would love to have them call me or write and say we would love a visit....I would deffinitly change that if I could.

[MommaKatja]

m-mom since its a non-legally binding agreement what would have to be done to modify the wording?

Is your relationship such that you could bring up the subject of always being the one to initiate visits with them?

Just wondering,
KatjaMichelle

[m-mom]

mommak-
I did tell them after years that me having to do all the traveling to the visits was too much, and now we share it, but its hard to tell someone that you want them to want a visit as much as you do. I guess i'm not sure how to bring it up...

[janetaschmitz]

In court before signing the papers under duress i might add they said it was open but I don't know how to set up a contract with the adoptive parent. They split my two kids up and I only know where one of them is. My son contacted us through internet and has stated abuse. He is almost 14 and wants to come back home but the adoptive parent said he couldn't see us because of child support, not until he is 18. He ran away and showed up at my home which we took him back. The adoptive mom took away his means of communication (psp). But when he ran away she sent the police here but he hadn't showed up. We have not talked to her to even tell her where we live. She is not very nice to him and he is adhd and now by not letting him have us in his life i am afraid is causing alot of mental issues he shouldn't have to deal with because of her selfishness.