[roxvierra]

My name is Roxane. I put my son up for adoption almost 18 years ago. I met the parents who adopted my son briefly, and never saw them again. I know that they have adopted two other children and all the children know they have been adopted. I am just not sure how to go about getting intouch with him when he turns 18? It is getting close to his birthday and I am scared to death, not sure if he will understand the reasons that I had for giving him up. Any advice, from someone who has been through this?

Thank you
Roxane

[BmommyToRebecca]

I haven't been in your situation, my daughter is only 1 1/2.
You should contact the agency you went through to see about getting in touch with him! Good luck! I hope everything works out for you!

[roxvierra]

Thanks for answering my post. I have his address and phone number. I guess my concern is how to go about calling him. Do I send him a Christmas card to start and see where that leads? I know questions I can answer myself, I guess I am looking for insight from someone who has already been there.

[thamket2149]

I am not in your shoes, however, I am helping a dear friend who just turned 18 look for her bmom. She too is having the same difficulties you are. I believe that a letter to your son stating your true and sincere intentions is the best thing to do. Make sure you step in to all your majesty in this letter. Provide him with everything he needs to feel comfortable in a scary sitatuion. Speak from the heart and ask god to guide your pen. Good luck, I wish happiness and strenght. Make sure you provide him with your address, email address and telephone number. He can then decide whether to write or call.

With Love,
Tamara