[dr. mom]

Congratulations! Wow! Sounds like you did alot odf detailed soul searching in the past few months! I am so happy for you! What a big boy! If you ever need someone yo talk to, email me! God bless you as you enter the beautiful journey of motherhood!

[Missy]

Sarah,
I'm glad to hear that you and Clarke are doing well. I wish you the best of luck...give him all the hugs you can because before you know it he'll be 6 and telling you he's too old. :-)
Missy

Congratulations and very well done.

M(emm)

[bajohnson]

Congratulations! I hope for you a life of love and learning. I had my two oldest boys when I was rather young, and I look at it like this. I may have made a lot of mistakes, but we "grew up" together and now that they are 17 and 18, we are closer than ever. Enjoy this time, and blessings on you, your son, and your family! I'm so glad they were supportive, and helped you to make your "family" a reality.
Again, Congrats, and let us know how the wee one is from time to time.
Beth
ps. Great name! My husband's name is Clark, minus the E.

[Roeroe]

Well.. I can only tell you from my experience.. I have a two month old son and was/am contemplating adoption. The one main thing that I suggest that you do is research. I have spent many late nights on the internet researching my option and looking at parent profiles, etc.. You can never be too knowledgeable. There are soo many resources out there. I can also tell you from my own experience that you may feel one way about your decision and then another day or another second of the day, feel another way. I have been going through that for the past few weeks. I can see pros and cons of both situations. Whether you choose to place your baby, or raise your baby. I was a single parent at the age of 18. I have raised my son and have done fine. Don't let anyone tell you that you are not capable of keeping your child. You can accomplish anything that you set your mind to. No matter what you choose, it is YOUR choice and it is something that YOU will have to live with for the rest of your life. Continue to soul search and I am sure you will make the best decision for both you and your baby! I wish you well.. You are in my thoughts.

[shellia424]

congrats on your decision...sometimes the hardest decisions to make are the most satisfying once they are made...good luck and know in your heart that you can do it!

[bromanchik]

Congratulations on your new baby boy!!!

I am so happy for all of you.

[sabinmelissa]

I am so sorry. Like Sharon said I am new to the adoption forums. I would like to apoligize to the birth mother also. I didn't realize that this was for support only. I have gone back and read the rules. To the birth mother: Please forgive me if I have pressured you in any way in your time of need. I thought you had already made your decision. I wish you all the best. We will be forever praying for you.


The Sabins

[Jenny8504]

Sarah,

My name is Jennifer. I'm 18 years old and in about the same situation. I am about 4 months along. But I found out I was pregnant when I was about 6 weeks. Me and my boyfriend had just broken up so it made me sound quite pathetic when I called and told him. Kind of a like desperate attempt to get him back. NOT!

Well anyway....I could never abort my baby. And I knew that this baby would have a much better life with parents that can take of him/her. So we chose adoption. Well mainly me. The agency moved me into an apartment and are paying my bills. I have no job...no support from pretty much everyone. The father is in and out of my life constantly and I'm not strong enough to tell him to leave me alone. B/c I don't wanna be alone through this. I thought I had my friends until today. They basically have made fun of me for being pregnant so young. My mom still talks to me about it but it upsets her. Although it would be a 3rd grandchild...it'd be her first from me. So I understand. I never thought I'd have to do this. I thought I'd be married and out of college b4 this happened.

It does get hurt every once in a while. But its one of those things that has to be done. So if you someone to talk to just e-mail me....xxxjenny2004xxx@aol.com

I really need support too!

[rhondasgurl]

You sound like you are very overwhelmed right now. You need to remember to take things slow. ALWAYS remember that you have not decided to place your baby for adoption until after he/she is born no matter what you're considering. When I gave my daughter up, I had a wonderful agency that was used JUST for me. My counselor was awesome. My baby had to be placed in foster care for 2 weeks until my court date to waiver parental rights (Wisconsin state law) and my agency counselor was there for me night and day when I needed to talk to her.

I want you to take a deep breath, and consider all of your options. If you decide to parent your baby, there are resources out there to help you and any adoption agency you should use during your pregnancy should make you aware of these resources and help you use them. If you haven't told your parents, remember, it isn't always as bad as you have it played out in your mind.

A few hints. If you are considering adoption, contact an agency in your area. Remember that YOU are in charge and can "fire" any agency that makes you feel that you and your baby are being put on a sales market. Any counselor that talks to you and doesn't make it perfectly clear that this isn't something you've decided yet, should not be your counselor. Every aspect of your baby's adoption is in your hands. You have the right to pick your baby's parents, decide how much contact you want in the future, and how open you want the adoption to be....even if that means you want full identifying information and frequent visits with the family. The agency will give you profiles of couples who agree to your terms.

Always remember, that adoption is an unselfish choice and that deciding to parent your child is not wrong. I am a 24 year old mother of 4, minus one birth child. My oldest is almost 7 years old. It isn't easy, but you are capable, if that is what you want. You hold the power to accomplish whatever you want in life. It just takes hard work and preseverance. If you aren't up to the challenge just yet, that is totally understandable. If you'd like to talk, just email me. Good luck and remember you're never alone.
Take a deep breath!!!

[Mom2Bri4]

I am a Birthmom, I gave birth to my son 2 years ago. When I found out I was pregnant I was very certain that was what I had to do. I have an open adoption and receive pictures and letters telling me how he is doing.

I am also very lucky because I get to see him and spend time with him occasionally. You know in your heart what is best for you and whatever the decision, it will be right. I don"t regret my decision and if you choose adoption then always know you did it for the love of your child.

If you have questions or just need to talk email me anytime.

charmed4b@iwon.com

Bonnie

[srelmore]

I don't post here, or check these boards any longer.

PLEASE-- Those looking for babies, I am NOT interested in giving my son up for adoption. I would appreciate if you would stop private messaging me, as well as e-mailing me. I really did not post this to begin with to have people soliciting me for my child.

Thank you all very much.

And those who've offered their support-- THANK YOU!!

[Sharon]

"Thank you BUT
I don't post here, or check these boards any longer.

PLEASE-- Those looking for babies, I am NOT interested in giving my son up for adoption. I would appreciate if you would stop private messaging me, as well as e-mailing me. I really did not post this to begin with to have people soliciting me for my child.

Thank you all very much.

And those who've offered their support-- THANK YOU!!" ~Srelmore

Sarah, if you delete the original post, the entire thread will disappear. I'd hate to see it go, because I think others can benefit from reading about your experience; but if you are being bothered because of it, then maybe you should just erase it. Apparently, some people don't know when to quit, and do not understand the concept of "boundaries" (ironic, since they're supposedly the ones who are responsible for setting and enforcing boundaries once they adopt).
Best wishes to you; I hope everything is going well.
~ Sharon

[srelmore]

Thank you, Sharon. I'm not going to delete the post, I just needed to get that off my back.

Things are going wonderfully! Clarke is growing like a weed- 4 months and something like 18lbs!

[susieq41]

Congrats Sarah,