[Luneykibbles]

Hi Sarah,
I can understand what your going through. Right now I myself am going through an adoption process, it's not an easy choice to make. I agree with what most are saying too. You need to make sure this is what you want to do. Explore all your options. I'm very blessed to have been matched up with the couple I have. I love them very much and it has been a wonderful experience for me, but I have met many girls now going through this, and many of them weren't as lucky. They ran into the wrong agency most of the time. So make sure you really check into it. If you need to talk feel free to IM or e-mail me at luneykibbles@aol.com Good luck!!

[srelmore]

Hi-
I just wanted to thank you all for your support, as well as let you know that I have made a firm and final decision regarding whether I'm going to keep my baby or not.

I'm keeping it.


I talked with my parents and my family and I now know that I have the support to get through this.. So I'm going to do so.

Thank you all so much for your support!

[bromanchik]

Congratulations!!!!! You'll be a great mom!!!

I am so glad your family and friends came through.

[talk2danielle]

Sarah, I wish you the best of luck in your decision.You need to talk to family and friends and then make your decision.I know there will be a lot of support out there for you.Take Care Danielle

[talk2danielle]

Just read your last replies.GOOD ON YOU! Being a mother is a wonderful experience.Enjoy your baby. Danielle

[Dragonfly82]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

[sspete]

You have made a great choice, if your inner voice says you are doing the right thing. You sound very confident in your decision. I feel joy for you! Best of Luck, my prayers are with you. spete

[mamasaid]

That is great news! It is okay to want the struggle and blessings of raising a baby! It is okay to get excited and plan ahead and go through all of the fun processes of reading the books, planning the nursery, going out and buying the clothes that are so adorable...getting the rocking chair and learning how to put together a crib! Even though it is going to be a difficult road -- I think it is difficult for all parents at some point or another!

I am so excited for you! Just think..you are going to be A MOTHER!!!! Congratulations! There is nothing like being a parent and there is nothing like the unconditional love you feel when you look at your baby for the first time! His/her little hand wrapping around your finger...holding him/her close to you, rocking the baby to sleep (and trying to get some sleep yourself!) -- it is such a huge step and a wonderful commitment. I wish you the best of luck! Take care of yourself and you will do fine!

[yg1023]

Hi Sarah

Congratulations on your decision to parent! Enjoy your pregnancy! And most of all, enjoy your baby! Feel free to contact me if necessary.

yg1023

[Janeece]

Hi,
I read your post and was very moved. I am not sure, but have you gotten any pre natal care? You said that you may be 4 months or farther along and that you can feel the baby. If you have not already, please see a doctor. Pre natal care is so important for you and your baby. I can only imgaine that is must be a daily struggle for you. As an adoptee I can only say thank you. There need to be more women like you who decide to give their baby up to a family who can provide a life that you are unable to provide at this time. I have always known I was adopted and my parents have always told me I was special because of that. They have always said positive things about my birthmother and hold her in the highest regard. Afterall, she gave me life. You are doing the same and should be very proud of yourself! My birthmother wrote me a letter explaining the circumstances surrounding her getting pregnant and her decision to give me up. She gave the letter to the agency for me to read when and if I wanted to find her. I did read the letter and was so touched that anyone could be so unselfish. She was afraid that I might hate her for giving me up. But I don't, not in the least. I love her for giving me the life she wanted for me and for giving my parents a chance to have a daughter. I have since met her and we have a wonderful relationship. She is satisfied that what she did was right. You may want to write a letter also. It may help you to make peace with your decision. I think you are a wonderful person! God Bless you and your child. Best wishes....................

_-J

-J

[Janeece]

Hi again,
My computer got stuck and I was not able to read the 2nd page! I did not know you decided to keep your baby! Good for you! I wish you and your baby all the happiness in the world! I hope you have an fast and easy delivery!
-J

[jenifer_212003]

Hello. my name is jenifer. I had my son at 16 years old. i thought of adoption. I decided not to go with it. now is almost 5 years later. he is the reason i wake up in the morning. i wish i would have given him up for his sake. he has alot of emotional stress. he lives with my father and sees me when my father lets us. it breaks my heart everyday. sometimes i just want to die, even if i never get him back, i cant. i am the only one that really loves him and wants him. i am now 21 and facing a unplaned pregnancy. this child will not go threw the same thing. someting i didnt want to realize when i had my son is that just because you love and want them is not always best. good luck to you. you are stronger than i. but i can say this, if you cant have keep your child for whatever reason, that child will always be in your heart. and the lord will provied, for you and your child. My heart and prayers are with you.

[Janeece]

Hi Jennifer,

I ready your post and I totally feel for you! As an adoptee I cant say that I know what you are going through, but I can say that you should not get yourself down about the decision you made for your 5 year old. You gave him life and that is something truly extrodinary! At such a young age, you made the choice to not abort your baby but to give him life and keep him. You should be proud of yourself for that. Even if he doesnt live with you and you arent able to see him much, I am sure he knows that you love him very much. Just be sure to always tell him how much you care and love him. Now, you are going through another journey with the baby you are carrying now. To give up a baby has to be the hardest thing any woman can do. But, again, you chose not to abort your baby but to give him/her life. You are also giving someone a chance to be a parent. My a/parents tried to conceive for 11 years before deciding to adopt. I am so proud of you for giving someone a chance to be a mom or a dad. My birthmother did the same for my parents and they and I will always be so thankful for that. She and you are amazing to be so selfless! I wish there were more women like you who dont take the easy way out and have an abortion. I bet one day your child will thank you for giving him/her a chance at a better quality of life. God bless you and your children, you are a truly wonderful person. email me anytime...JaneeceP20@aol.com

[Missy]

Sara,

My first thought when I read your post is..."She needs to talk to SKye & Brenda." Well, I noticed that Brenda already posted a couple of messages above...but as yet Skye hasn't. They are both wonderful women to talk with. They listen and have walked where you are going. Good luck...I'm sure you'll make the perfect decision for you...whatever that is.

Missy

[srelmore]

I just wanted to update you guys and thank you for your support.
At this very moment I am sitting here, breastfeeding my 9 day old son, and am happier, more content, and more settled then I've ever been in my life.

Clarke Paul came into the world on July 1st at 1:24am via semi-emergency c-section (he was breech and we had a scheduled one for noon on the first, but my water broke around 10:45 the day before!!) weighing 9 lbs. 8 ozs. and measuring 20 1/4". He's extremely healthy, and happy, and he's the most wonderful thing to ever happen to me.

After I found out I was pregnant I did a lot of soul searching, and grew up--- a lot. I decided that despite the fact that I was young and scared, and that I would be doing this on my own, I could not imagine giving my child up. I decided to take responsibilty and grow up instead. And I did. And now, I am happily a mommy to the most amazing little boy in the world.

Again, thank you all for your support and words of advice.

Sarah
& Clarke