[haileysmomlacy]

Hi. I am a 21 year old mother who has a 11 month old and I am expecting another child in late February. I am not sure if I can handle 2 children right now, and am seriously considering adoption. Just looking for some support right now!!! Thanks...

[evansmum]

I'm pretty sure that there's a site called www.birthmother.com I don't know what it's like, as I am not a birth mother, but I thought that I'd put it out there for you.

There's also a couple sites that have adoptive parent profiles for you to look at as well.

www.parentprofiles.com

www.canadaadopts.com (this has Canadian couples....)

And I *think* there's a site called www.hopetoadopt.com (not sure - again, I'm not a birth mother....)

I also remember reading on this site somewhere that there's an "agency" that specializes in women who are thinking about adoption, but aren't sure.... pretty sure it's Bethany something... I read here that they have a very low placement percentage due to their amazing birthmother counselling - I think they will do what they can to help you parent if that's what you decide to do, and they don't charge "birthmothers" either....

Good luck, either way it will be a tough decision for you to make. Just remember that you will make the right decision, whatever that may be......

[Kelly'sAuntie]

Please remember to look at all the options. Adoption is of course, one option, but your community may also offer single parent support programs. Be sure you make an informed decision. I am praying for you.

[awish4anangel]

Hello,

I am sorry you are going through such a difficult time right now. I also admire you for considering adoption for your baby. We have one little angel we adopted 4 years ago, and have an open adoption. I would be more than happy to share any info I have on adoption, and try and help you. If you just need someone to offer you emotional support, I would love to try and be there for you. Yes, we are hoping to adopt, but right now I am just offering you support. Hope to hear from you soon
Nancy ( veersrt@aol.com)

[calfriend]

You should consider how the new baby may impact the child that you already have. You are also very young and have a long life ahead with many choices and opportunities. At 21, life is awide open book, and no matter what your situation is, you are the author of that book! What I mean is that what your future will look like is your decision now! Although this sound a bit heavy, it really isn't. We all go through this stages in our youth, and we all have the same fears and hopes when becoming adults. You should also take into consideration the support that you will have from your child's father, your family, and even friends. Trust me when I say that whatever decision you make will be the right one. My prayers are with you.

lesleyhenegar@earthlink.net

[flmom]

Hi. I'm new to this forum too. My husband and I are prospective adoptive parents. But not for about another year. We're trying to pay bills etc. right now, but are beginning to read and research adoption.

Your post just really touched me. I just wanted you to know that someone cared about you. What a tough decision. I truly don't know what I'd do or how I'd feel in your place. Do you have any support from family or friends? I hope so. Well, I just wanted you to know that I will be praying for you and hope that you can come to a peace about your decision. Reply back if you want to talk further, I'm here. Merry Christmas.

[mater1]

Hi,

I hope that you are considering all your options and that you come to a decision that you feel peace about. There are many sites on the web and many resources in communities. Adoption is always an option! It is not a decision that has to be made right now. You have the right to explore your options. Remember the various levels of openness in adoption and also legal guardianship. This is a very tough decision at this time of the year. Merry Christmas.

Praying for you,
Virginia