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Originally Posted By Kati

Nowhere did I see anybody say ALL adoptive parents. We were each sharing our own experiences which is what this board is for.

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Originally Posted By Allison

Absolutely. I would never counsel a girl/woman with an unwanted pregnancy to choose adoption. That whole "you'll forget and go on" crap..Well friends of mine dont even think about their abortions anymore, but giving up me son is just as painful today as it was back then. Not just the pain of the relinquishment, but the pain of the lies from the adoptive parents, and the pain of your friends and family who ignore you and dont want to talk about it. And reunion doesnt make it any better! We reunited about 3 months ago and it's wonderful, but the pain is still there. If anything, it's worse, because now Im faced with everything I missed.

So yes Laurie, I totally agree and thanks for having the guts to say so.

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Originally Posted By 20/20 FROM THE OPPOSITE WAY

Yes you are right...hindsight is 20/20Iaborted years ago. I was young and thought I was doing the right thing. Well I've regreted it my whole adult life. I've had counseling and learned I did the best I could at the time. Its much worsethan adoption. I am mom to both bio and adopted children. Parenting has been a major part of my life. My adopted daughter would have been aborted had her birthparent had the money. She is our life and I'm giving to a child what I was to ignorant to give to my own! I have 3 bio children. Life would have been so much better had I kept my first child but I did what I thought I had to do. You see no matter what if you are a caring parent it's hard. Un fortunately for my daughter her bparents had no trouble giving her up and they have never regretted it or looked back. Her bmom told me she knew this baby belonged to me and my husband the minute she met us. Lucky for us and what a beautiful child we have. Oh and by the way we weren't looking to adopt. We were never on a list or anything else. It was fate and I now know God works in the most surprising ways....and I'm not a go to church person. Yes 20/20 alright!!! vic

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Originally Posted By 20/20 FROM THE OPPOSITE WAY

Yes you are right...hindsight is 20/20Iaborted years ago. I was young and thought I was doing the right thing. Well I've regreted it my whole adult life. I've had counseling and learned I did the best I could at the time. Its much worsethan adoption. I am mom to both bio and adopted children. Parenting has been a major part of my life. My adopted daughter would have been aborted had her birthparent had the money. She is our life and I'm giving to a child what I was to ignorant to give to my own! I have 3 bio children. Life would have been so much better had I kept my first child but I did what I thought I had to do. You see no matter what if you are a caring parent it's hard. Un fortunately for my daughter her bparents had no trouble giving her up and they have never regretted it or looked back. Her bmom told me she knew this baby belonged to me and my husband the minute she met us. Lucky for us and what a beautiful child we have. Oh and by the way we weren't looking to adopt. We were never on a list or anything else. It was fate and I now know God works in the most surprising ways....and I'm not a go to church person. Yes 20/20 alright!!! vic

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Originally Posted By 20/20 FROM THE OPPOSITE WAY

Yes you are right...hindsight is 20/20Iaborted years ago. I was young and thought I was doing the right thing. Well I've regreted it my whole adult life. I've had counseling and learned I did the best I could at the time. Its much worsethan adoption. I am mom to both bio and adopted children. Parenting has been a major part of my life. My adopted daughter would have been aborted had her birthparent had the money. She is our life and I'm giving to a child what I was to ignorant to give to my own! I have 3 bio children. Life would have been so much better had I kept my first child but I did what I thought I had to do. You see no matter what if you are a caring parent it's hard. Un fortunately for my daughter her bparents had no trouble giving her up and they have never regretted it or looked back. Her bmom told me she knew this baby belonged to me and my husband the minute she met us. Lucky for us and what a beautiful child we have. Oh and by the way we weren't looking to adopt. We were never on a list or anything else. It was fate and I now know God works in the most surprising ways....and I'm not a go to church person. Yes 20/20 alright!!! vic

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Originally Posted By Penny

Im sorry, but unless you have been on both sides of it, you can not comment. Im sorry you regret your abortion, and Im sure you have grieved that decision, but you definetly HAVE not been been on all sides of adoption unless you have relinquished a child. I have done both. I gave up a child for adoption when I was 16 and it caused me unbelievable pain. And I dont care what your birthmother tells you, she still feels pain. I had an open realtionship with adoptive couple who took my son, and I had to laugh when I read: "her bparents had no trouble giving her up and they have never regretted it or looked back. Her bmom told me she knew this baby belonged to me and my husband the minute she met us." because I told the same thing to my sons parents all the time. I did'nt want them to feel guilty about my pain, so I never let them see it (or my son) and I gave them nothing but smiles and sunny reassurances that I was "just fine" and had "no regrets". They never saw the tears, they never heard a complaint, and they knew nothing of my suicide attempt on his first birthday. So when faced with another unplanned pregnancy at 22, I did not HESITATE to get an abortion. And it never gave me a moments bother. I am happy to say that now at 39 Im MOMMY to a beautiful 10 year old girl and 12 year old boy and MOM to a my 23 year old birthson who came back into my life full time only a few months ago. So in answer to the original poster: Your right Laurie..abortion was the better choice.

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Originally Posted By momto7

Well I'm glad you think my choice of abortion was the right choice and better than adoption. It shows that we all have opinions and our opinions are not the same nor right for everyone. I don't agree though. Yes you may be right about my childs bmom feeling pain over her decision. It's a shame that my child was born with some big health problems and that is a story in itself, but her bmom knows her problems and knew she would need surgery. She chose to cut contact and I tried to find her to let her know when the first surgery would be. I contacted the birthgradmother and she let me know that she was not interested in seeing her. Well my child will need a third surgery!! Where has her bmom gone? No clue...not even her mother knows. The bfather denies her. I have been coming here for awhile now and this will be my last post as I no longer feel the need to be here. Good luck to all of you. Adoption for my family has been positive and the love we have for our child is no different than the love for our biological kids. We have 7 children so parenting is my life and I love my choice to parent. Bye all

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Originally Posted By Linda

http://www.lifecall.org/
There is a video at this sight called "The Silent Scream" viewing it might make help make you feel better about choosing life for your baby.

That video is a fake. Even the doctor in the video admitted it was fake in a new interview. Also, the production crew on it admitted it was fake. They said how it was done also.

I know this is an older post, but I had to respond.