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Originally Posted By Margo

I have hired a geneologist to help in my search and she has gotten me some imformation on my birth. Well, I have also contacted the state of which I was born to get my nonidentifying imformation.It has been nearly a month now of waiting for the imformation and it's driving me crazy. Why, have I waited my whole life time for some answer's and now it's bothering me? Why am I coming up with all these question's? Will she want anything to do with me? Will she want to meet me? Does she/he ever think of me? Do I even exist to either of them? I know the imformation still has to come in the mail and the geneologist will continue what ever it is she has to do.But in the mean time how do I manage all these question's? If there is anyone out there who may be able to help me out with some advice I would really like to hear from you. Thank you~~~

[Terri Bailey]

Sweetie, I feel your pain on the other end of the spectrum. I gave my son up for adoption 25 years ago, and have not stopped looking for him yet. Either he doesn't know he's adopted or cares not to know about me. Every one is different. I know I think about my child every day, and there's a hole in my heart that can never be filled. I knew I couldn't give him the things he needed at my young age; wasn't even sure about the love part. But haven't stopped shedding tears since the day I left the hospital. My personal opinion is that if the means are out there and you haven't been looked for, and you KNOW THIS FOR A FACT, maybe you'd be better off leaving things the way they are. That will never change the way you feel, but if you have loving adoptive parents, then you've led a very charmed life. I cry daily for those who have none. Keep your chin up, and I hope things work out the best for, no matter which way that goes. Terri