[dklevy]

Does anyone else out there just want to scream out their child's full name? [Adoptive] parents names? Am I the only one who wants to post all sorts of info like crazy just to grab at what seems like the last desperate hope of someone being able to tell me that they - SE AND her parents - are okay? I feel like I don't dare even say her name out of fear they will get mad, but the urge is so strong sometimes.....

[kakuehl]

In the years before reunion, I didn't have a name to use! (Baby boy Bikle didn't quite do it!) Mine, of course, was a closed adoption, but I can understand your need. For me, it would have been so much harder to have that much knowledge and still not know how he was doing.

[mrskt]

This is the first time I've wandered over to this side of the forums, so I'm reading and absorbing heavily today but yes, I did want to say, as an adoptive parent, that's very much something I would dearly love to do. My DD's first mom opted for a completely closed adoption for unknown reasons, with extremely limited information available (DD didn't even have a name on her original BC) and we were chosen for DD by the agency, so she knows nothing about us. I worry much of the time that she may regret that decision or want to know more and feel like she is unable to change that situation. I've flagged all of our files at the agency, sent pictures repeatedly to be put in the file, and sent letters, "just in case"... and dearly hope one day that we are able to be in touch - so yes - just wanted you to know that I VERY MUCH understand the need you expressed!!!