[MamaS]

Totally unsure where to post this story link.

Woman implanted with wrong embryo to give birth - TODAY Health

So many PAP's posting here are told "It does not matter what the birthparents said or what the birthparents signed, it is not YOUR baby until all the time has past and the legalities are met. Until then it is THEIR baby and they have the right to take it back."

Now, a couple of good parents are being told "It does not matter that you carried this child for nine months and that the mother is risking her life and health to have a c-section to deliver -- it is not YOUR baby.
Another couple has the legal right to take him from you."

I am not sure what would be "right" but this does not feel right to me.

[crick]

It's such a tragic situation they are going through due to the clinic's drastic error and no fault of their own.

I do agree though that it's not their child and she chose to be a surrogate for this child. Doesn't make it easy and certainly she should not have been put in this position.

[RavenSong]

Well, I hope at least the genetic parents pay the medical costs for prenatal care, delivery, and postnatal care. But they'll probably just say the woman's health insurance is covering it, so why bother?

I wonder if they'll offer any birthmother expenses....

[crick]

It's not the genetic parent's responsibility though. The clinic screwed up and the clinic should pay for all that. They are victims in this situation too.

As for the bparents...well, they aren't actually birth parents, imo. The woman carrying the child is a surrogate and I see those as different situations than a woman who carries her child and then places. This isn't an adoption case at all.

[paigeturner]

I’m sure the lawsuits are filed from both families affected by this screw up! The clinic’s insurance company will be paying.

What an awful situation. I feel for all involved.

[alinev]

As crazy hard as it would be to give the child up, IMHO it would be even harder to explain to the child/teen/adult that you chose to keep them from their bio family...

[bromanchik]

What interests me is that, after all the discussion of how difficult this is going to be, they are going to use a surrogate for their next child.

[MamaS]

They don't have much choice, since she will not be able to get pregnant again after this baby is born. Also, they do have their embryos ready (I did read that they transferred them to another clinic, lol). The main difference is that their surrogate will be a willing volunteer (and probably well-paid) surrogate.
I feel so sorry for all those involved, but especially for the baby.

[lovemy2boys]

Originally Posted by bromanchik

What interests me is that, after all the discussion of how difficult this is going to be, they are going to use a surrogate for their next child.

You find that interesting? How so?

Do you feel that their words/feelings of this couple are empty because they are choosing to use a surrogate?

Do you feel that if they DO, in fact, feel this is difficult that they should not use a surrogate, who is entering into this with full knowledge as opposed to them?

I don't find it interesting. I find it sad. I feel extreme compassion for BOTH of these couples.