[jessilala420]

If any body out there can help me with this question , I would be so thankful . I gave birth to my son 6 years ago , unfortunately I was a heroin addict and my son was born addicted . Naturaly the state stepped in and to make a long story short , My mom adopted him. I have always been in his life and I have always been mom. I am 3 years clean and my family is very supportive of my situation. I live with mom and son and my mom isnt getting any younger . She told me she didnt know what to have in writing should anything happen to her. She wouldnt trust anyone to care for him , but me. We would both like to know if she could leave him to be cared for by me. Please help , It is very important that I know what to do ! Thanx

[DianeS]

Yes, things can be arranged that way. As the boy's legal mother, she can choose anybody she likes to care for the boy in the event of her death. All she has to do is put it in her will, just like anybody else.

If she also wants you to care for the boy if she is severely ill or injured, then she needs to put that in a living will. The same lawyer (or other service) who writes her will can write her living will.

Normally an adult child (you) can just step in and care for the minor children left by their parent's death. Usually a will or living will is not necessary. But it becomes necessary if somebody objects. And when the people involved are concerned that somebody would object - another relative, an officer or judge, someone else who knew the adult during a bad phase in her life, etc - then it is best to have her choice to have you raise the boy written down in legal form.

Hope that helps!

[jessilala420]

Thank you so much !.....Ill have to pass along that info to mom. I hope that puts her at ease a little bit ! Thanx again , i appreciate the response !