[SchmennaLeigh]

As a birth parent, what are your goals (related to adoption) for 2009?

Meaning: more/less communication, healing issues, etc.

[JustPeachy]

More communication with my son. I don't want to be too pushy, but things have been moving very slowly and I would like to be more assertive in opening things up a bit more (provided he is comfortable with all of it).

[lahdh4]

Anything more then what I received in 08!! Right now I will take hearing from them since they didn't feel I was important enough to get back to to answer a simple question.

[quantum]

Well I'm planning a trip that's going to involve nearly a week I think of time with my son! Plus meeting his step mom and adoptive father. Should be interesting... probably a make or break time.

I've also made the jump and am going to introduce my son to some of my other relatives. I'm hoping it helps heal, scared it might open wounds bigger.

So, if I survive April, then we'll see about further goals for the year!

[cetalley]

Hello to all, I will be excepting what ever comes my way. If and when the twins are found, if they wish no contact...I will except that and close this chapter, for it has been a very long chapter. I must except and move on. Only to wish them much love and happiness!

[thanksgivingmom]

Hopes, hopes, hopes.....I hope that I can find the strength to stay strong this year and believe that I have worth in my daughters life. To not let her Mom's delayed responses or lack of enthusiasm deter me. I plan to follow through and continue my own plan, even if visits get pushed back and promises get broken. I can still do MY part - and I will.

[Mommy24]

*Sigh* I don't know where to go from here. I put myself out there and basically got rejected. Goals...2009......stay sane?

[agathaj]

Although I have accepted that I no longer have a relationship with bteen, I do feel great sadness about the loss. This year I wish to move from sadness to a place of peace - An acceptance that doesn't have any emotions attached to it. Any advice on how to reach this outcome would be appreciated! lol

[AlisonMarie]

Get through his 12th birthday, it will be in 2 weeks. I also plan to continue journaling, even though I don't think anyone reads it, it helps to write. I also started a support group over the summer (not related to birthparents, but I do talk about my birthson), and plan to continue that and work on issues that being a birthmom has created.

[-maggie]

I have high hopes for 2009!

2008 was completely miserable, but I've lived through it and am in a good place now. Probably the best place I've been in my entire life....

2009 will be a year I work on ME! I've lived my entire life doing and feeling how someone else expected me to. NO MORE! I've had enough of living my life based on someone elses expectations..... It's time for me to be a little selfish and live my life for ME!

I will be doing lots of reading on adoption (any suggestions would be wonderful!). It's time to let go of the past and live in the future! I am coming out of the darkness....

Wherever my reunion goes is completely up to dd. I hope and pray that she will continue to be in my life! She means the world to me and I cherish every moment I spend talking with her.