[PhillyFanatic]

Janeytwo:

Well, I had to give up my daughter 40 years ago this September and this is a very hard year for me. If I had the money I would try to find her. That is the obsticle.

[kakuehl]

Philly, where have you looked? I was lucky and found my son four years ago because he had registered on this site. (He'll be 37 this October.)

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by PhillyFanatic

Janeytwo:

Well, I had to give up my daughter 40 years ago this September and this is a very hard year for me. If I had the money I would try to find her. That is the obsticle.

There are a number of free web sites, There is one here adoption.com have one here too.

I personally know a adoptee bmom who found her brithdaughter on the ISRR.

ISRR - International Soundex Reunion Registry International Soundex Reunion Registry They will accept a donation any time you are able to send something. You don't have to pay when you sign up.

[PhillyFanatic]

ScarletMoon13:
I do not even know where to look. I was sent away to a farm with an older woman and when I was taken to the hosptal the doctor put me to sleep. All I know is the date she was born, the hospital and the city and state. My parents and the lawyers did everything else.

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by PhillyFanatic

ScarletMoon13:
I do not even know where to look. I was sent away to a farm with an older woman and when I was taken to the hosptal the doctor put me to sleep. All I know is the date she was born, the hospital and the city and state. My parents and the lawyers did everything else.

When you sign up give them all the information, your name where you where born, the state or closest town you might have been in. The name of the woman on the farm. Your birthday, the baby's birthdate.. anything you can remember. Or even call that guy on TV Troy Dunn the Locator Troy The Locator

I knew a man, my birthson's birth uncle, the uncle was an adoptee and started doing searches every vacation. He would go to town or city and research records. He even managed to find the birth mom of a baby left in a catholic church in the small town next to the mother's small town, from the 1930s. He did this in the 1960s and 70s.

If you don't at least try you will never know. Your birthchild could already be registered.

Hugs, I know how you feel.

[jdox0776]

Originally Posted by quantum

Yeah! We go more for quantity than quality!

I think it's also a heck of a lot harder to be a birth parent than an adoptive parent on many levels. Many of us have felt we don't deserve to get support even!

I didn't come here until I decided to search for my son.


Plus I don't think the holiday time is the best time to see our true numbers. It's a super hard time for many of us and a lot of people just close up then.

But then again, I haven't read the adoptive parents section so I don't know!

As a birthmom I agree!! In my experience I have been chastised for placing my child because in their opinion I didn't want her, didn't take responsibility and so on. Adoptive parents usually do not get any flack unless they adopt for purely selfish reasons, I knew one amom who bragged about having a baby without getting those nasty weight gain and stretch marks and she had the ability to procreate herself and was perfectly healthy in that department, this child could have gone to someone who truly could not have any children.

As a birthmom if you ever told a stranger you chose adoption, have you ever got the sideways looks of disapproval? Some people had said to me that if I didn't want to keep my baby then why did I get pregnant, I did not plan on getting pregnant at 17 it just happened. There are other circumstances that can prompt adoption that I am sure at least one of you has been thru. Adoption is a selfless act of love either way you slice it because you chose life over abortion.