[SchmennaLeigh]

I know our language is always evolving. I know we're a group of rushed people in general, looking for ways to shave seconds off of everything from meal creating to writing posts on forums. But I've been made aware of something and it bothered me and I had to see if other birth parents were also bothered.

What do you think of the term "exmom" used when referring to an expectant mother?

I know we made a huge stink about referring to expectant parents as birth parents prior to the signing of TPR. People then began realizing the need to use the term "expectant mom" or, shortened, "emom." But exmom? Really? Isn't anyone getting the connotation that we're making the expectant mother an "ex" before she has been severed from her child? Ex = past = I don't like it. They're not the "ex" mom prior to TPR. They're the current, present and only mom prior to signing. They're not the ex!

Thoughts from other birth parents? (Others welcome to chime in as well!)

[paigeturner]

I hate it. I cringe when I see it. I hate it almost as much as I hate the term "our birthmom". I shave a few seconds off when I'm typing a response as well, but I can't quite figure out how exmom is easier than emom. I try not to get too caught up in language differences, but some make me cringe a little and this new trend of "ex" is one I hope doesn't stick.

[thanksgivingmom]

Ugh. I don't have vocabulary strong enough to explain why I don't like this - especially vocabulary that would be appropriate here!

Ex has SUCH a negative connotation and how people can claim they don't see that is beyond me. It is WILDLY offensive. I can't even see the necessity for it to be honest and would be VERY interested to hear what the "legitimate" argument is for using it.

[HappyTwinsMom]

Eeeewww! I hate it! "Ex" infers someone who used to be something and isn't any longer.

[bromanchik]

Who the heck came up with that? YUCK!

[paigeturner]

The more I think of it, the more I think the term "wonder womb" would be better. Uggg.

[carolynppk]

As an adoptee I am greatly offended by that term. I have never thought of my bmom as my "ex" mom. She's my mom!!! My first mom!!!!

Carolyn

[Janeytwo]

Jenny,

You're 100% correct. That is the singularly most offensive term I've heard yet!

Good for you and everyone else for giving it the "nay-say".

And it's good to see ya by the way! I know you're busy these days! Hugs to ya!

Janey

[jwmjwm]

Yikes! "Ex" has such a strong connotation that it's almost a word in itself, and not to realize that is exceptionally dense, IMO. The term is inappropriate to say the least.

[belleinblue1978]

Wow, I've been annoyed by a herd of things today, but this, other than my broken ovary, is the most annoying of the day.

When I say ex anything, usually it isn't with joy in my voice, usually it is spat out with venom.

[lovemy2boys]

Why on earth would anyone think this is appropriate?

So much to say...but won't even waste my time...

Blech.

[BrandyHagz]

I second the broken ovary...

Oh...wait.

[Leigh131313]

Ugg...no.

I was thinking....if they added the p it would be better (exp.mom) but then I realized that could look like expired

Emom always makes me think of computer stuff (email, eharmony)

but I think that's better than EX if I'm too lazy to type out the whole thing (which I am, so I'll stick with emom)

[devildogwife]

Exmom? Don't like it at all.

[RavenSong]

I don't even know what to say... How disgusting, how appalling, how inhumane. I haven't heard the term "exmom" used yet here on the forums for an emom. I'm sure the first time a bmom complains about it being used, we'll be told that we take offense where none is meant, that language isn't important.

I feel officially sick today...