[lahdh4]

there are no words.

[quantum]

exmom? what twisted person thought THIS was a GOOD idea???
The more I think about it the more I fume. Was this invented by someone to make themselves feel better? It's sick.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Okay. Thanks all. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't out in left field while everyone was playing hockey.

I also just told my Husband who is not touched by adoption except through me and he first laughed (male response) and then said, "How can someone NOT see that is offensive?" That was a bit more validation. I plan to blog on this later.

[Tazer]

OMG...what next? Is there a person out there somewhere not connected to the world of adoption paid to sit at a keyboard all day and come up with new phrases and terms? Who makes this stuff up? The first time I saw emom was in this forum and I'm thinking WTH??? I also linked it to words like e-mail, e-pics, etc. I was puzzled until someone finally printed "expectant" and I got it.

Paige, you said:The more I think of it, the more I think the term "wonder womb" would be better. Uggg

I personally like it as well as "Womb-a-nator" and those of us who can wear the same size clothes as our reunited kids could be "Womb-a-licious"...the list goes on! Tracy

[bajj]

Wow, I've never heard that term. When I read the title to your thread I was thinking what has gotten into Jenna? She doesn't want to replace Birth or First mom with exmom does she? I had no clue you meant expectant mom. Anyway exmom for ANY mother is disgusting. I am so sorry you've experienced that! How horrible.

[bajj]

Originally Posted by Tazer

OMG...what next? Is there a person out there somewhere not connected to the world of adoption paid to sit at a keyboard all day and come up with new phrases and terms? Who makes this stuff up? T
Tracy

This cracked me up! LOL. I know the topic isn't a laughing matter, but thanks for adding some fun into it.

[kakuehl]

I must admit that when I read the title, I wondered what "moms" we were referring to... EXpectant moms definitely did NOT come to mind. I remember a case where a boy sued to divorce himself from his parents... now THAT would be an ex-mom!

[DancinBear63]

Wow- that's not cool at all.

I had not seen the term on the boards, but sure enough it was there when I entered it as a search term. I would like to think that those who used it meant no harm, especially if they are still learning appropriate terminology. (I admit to using birth mom as one word, before reading that people were put off by that).

[JustPeachy]

I can't say it offends me per se, but if I saw the term "exmom" I would be confused because I wouldn't know what it was referring to, and I would assume it meant ex-mom, as in "no longer someone's mom." If it must be abbreviated, emom is so much easier and understood, or expmom might work, too.

"Our bmom" doesn't really offend me, either, quite honestly, especially if I understand the context in which it's used, and it is clearly understood that it is not used offensively or with bad intent.

[taramayrn]

Can I barf now?

[kakuehl]

I searched the term, went to one of the threads and nicely (I think) questioned the term... some one kindly pointed out that ex mom did indeed mean expectant mom... sigh...

[vegaschristina]

Ok, I'm not a birth mom and I'm HORRIFIED by the term. OMG Even as an abbreviation it's aweful.

I personally like it as well as "Womb-a-nator" and those of us who can wear the same size clothes as our reunited kids could be "Womb-a-licious"...the list goes on!

Tracy, This is a riot!

[RavenSong]

I know that this Age of the Internet has encouraged many of us to shorten terms, to create new language. But, really, how hard is it to type out the word expectant? It takes maybe three seconds to key out the entire word?

There are other abbreviations we are not allowed to use on this website because of the potential offense they may cause to other people. I think exmom or ex mom should be included.

[ucme4dk]

Not only do I not agree or like it before the birth, I find the term equally offensive after the TPR, if such TPR occurs.

[paigeturner]

You know, if I referred even once to the son that I placed as my "ex-son" I'd be booed off the forums. I asked my daughter what she thought about this term last night. She snorted, "so does that make me his ex-sister? That's seriously messed up."