[Tigger27]

I was trying to think of a question to throw out here and this is what I came up with, which I realize has probably been asked before...but...

I was wondering if you could go back in time to when you got involved with the guy(s), knowing what you know now that your involvement with said guy(s) would result in the pregnancy and placement of your child/children and how your life is now, would you still choose to get involved with the guy(s) or would you make the choice to walk away from said guy(s)?

[Oceans]

I've thought of this many times... The answer for me is no. Its not that I'm happy I got pg at 16 (gave birth at 17) but I wouldn't waive a magic wand and make it go away either simply because he's here now and I am sure is loved by many including myself.

I would change a lot of things if I could but getting pregnant in the first place - No - I couldn't do that. I don't regret having him at all.

[BrandyHagz]

I learned so much from that relationship - and gained an invaluable friendship that will, regardless of what is going on, always be there.

B is one person I know I can always 'call on' if I need to...

He has his flaws...but we all do. He's a fantastic man, a fantastic father and a fantastic friend. I miss him a lot.

[browneyes0707]

I too have thought about this a lot, and even though our relationship was (and still is) a rocky one, I would still do it. People tried to talk me out of it back then and I didn't listen

My feelings for him were honest, and had I not gone out with him I would have always wondered what if anyway. I know he cared about me too.

Things happen for a reason, and I'm not one to question or look back on it. I wouldn't be the person I am today had I not had the relationship I had with him.

[belleinblue1978]

I don't know... in my angry moments the answer would be heck no I wouldn't have dated him. I did learn alot though about alot of things. So probably the answer would be yes.

[thanksgivingmom]

I learned little to nothing from my relationship with him except that I was a moron for staying with him so long. There was just nothing there.

I know that sounds bitter but it's totally true. Knowing what I know now and how wonderful Cupcake is? I can't possibly say I would take it all back and not bring her beautiful little person into the world.

Had I not known what I'd be missing though? Psh, I would of course take it back!

But maybe that's just me....I mean, he and I do NOT talk, we have nothing but Cupcake in common, and he held me back and down the whole time we were together.

He is NOT synonymous with Cupcake to me. I know he should be because he's a part of her, but even still....

[Mommy24]

Sigh* This is a hard one, I have 4 wonderful children with him and without him I would not have the kids I have today. So, knowing what I know, yes I would do it all over again.

I think

[Boxerlady29]

This is hard. I have my daughter. I believe things happen for a reason but..............
He was, and as far as I know is still a very bad person. Drugs, DUI's, Prison, Theft. (no, I was not making good choices at the time) He never cared for me. I didn't learn anything from the relationship I had from him and can not look back on it fondly. I have forgiven him for what he did to me and moved on, although it was hard. I do worry for my daughter wanting to find him someday.
Would I go back in time and not get involved with him? I would go back in time and not put myself in the postion to know him.

[keds]

It is hard because I married him and have 3 beautiful kids (1 placed for adoption and 2 raised). For myself, I would say Yes because My life is not what I had envisioned but for my family NO because I can't imagine this life without the love of my kids and they are the real reason I'm still around!

[lahdh4]

Hard for me to say because it was a good relationship. Now that we are no longer together I wouldn't be involved in a relationship with him. So if he was the same way as when we first going out about until about a month before we broke up: yes. If he was the same as he is now: no.

[taramayrn]

I would have to say no because he's now my husband and the daddy of this "little nugget", so I can't imagine not having him in my life, even if it means we've had to experience pain, etc in placing our first born for adoption.

[Jackiejdajda]

For me the question is.. would I have gone to Boston on my own.. Would I have put myself into the position I put myself..
And the answer is no..

Jackie

[SchmennaLeigh]

No. I loved Munchkin's biological father at one point in time. Plus, the world without the Munchkin is a sad, sad world.

[majicka414]

I wouldn't have changed my involvement with my x at all, he was a good guy, it was a strange relationship to begin with, our bdaughter just added to the strangeness...

My journey however has brought me to the husband I have today, and if my life were different, perhaps he and I would have never met.

Everything happens for a reason, I tend not to question the past.

[quantum]

I feel a bit mixed.
That summer I was hanging out with two guys. One I thought I could really fall for, one was someone who I felt was a bit out of my league. I decided to date the one out of my league.
I'm happy I have my son though.

I guess I also feel like it's all that I've gone through that has made me the person I am today, that has put me where I am today, and frankly, right now, I beleive in 'Happily Ever After'. Just had to go through a lot of crap to get there!