[dvalentine]

Well, some of you may remember my struggles with both the potential a-family, and the agency I worked with throughout my adoption. I ended up in a private open adoption, and so far, things are as good as can be expected. Well, today I got tattoos in honor of my little girl. I got her footprints, with the initials I gave her, and the ones they gave her, on my feet. My question is, do you think the adoptive family would be put off by this?

[belleinblue1978]

dvalentine,

It is your body and you can do what you want and honor your daughter and your connection with her however you like.

It sucks to be caught in the will this bother someone trap,so don't let yourself get there with something like that.

[lovemy2boys]

My son is 6 1/2...For his 6th birthday, we were out with his firstmom, and I noticed a tatoo of a heart on her wrist with the initials inside of the name that she gave him, as opposed to the one we gave him (first and last initials are different, middle initial is the same).

It surprised me to see it, only because I'd never seen it before; but it absolutely did not bother me, at least not in an "angry" or "bothersome" sort of way.

In a strange way that I can't really describe, I felt a bit closer to her. I'm not a tattoo person (the whole fear of needles thing) but seeing that somehow softened my heart...go figure - the strangest things are endearing to me.

I wouldn't "worry" about their reaction. You have no ill intentions - so there's really no reason for them to be upset.

[One_Happy_Momma]

More than just a tattoo bonds you with your child.

[Saya]

Well as an a-mom I can tell you it wouldn't bother me at all. I think it's a lovely idea. However I agree that it really doesn't matter so much what they think - this is about YOU and your bond with this little girl.