[Oceans]

Last week was the WORST Mother’s Day week ever since I had my son. While I’m grateful for having a picture and a name after 26 years, it made Mother’s Day very real to me which made for a difficult week leading up to yesterday. But yesterday, it dawned on me what Mother’s Day is really about and it’s not me. It wouldn’t even be about me if I were a traditional Mother. I have a Mother – it was her day too. I have a family member that I “mother” and she’s now a mother. It was her day too. I have several friends who are Mom’s it was their day.

Mother Day is OUR day collectively not my day individually. Yes, we should carve out time to spoil ourselves and let our self be honored by our family but we should also spend time honoring others. I learned that Mother’s Day is more about giving than receiving and finding joy in that. This year, I learned to let go of my claim on Mother’s Day. It isn’t about me, it’s about honoring those I love and if I'm honored in return, then so much the better.

Just thought I’d share that and as always, just my opinion on how I will celebrate the day going forward…

I should also say, I hope my lesson sticks because I don’t ever want to go through last week again!!! lolol

[keds]

Oceans, you are wonderful! I was feeling sorry for myself, you know, my raised kids are older and didn't "forget" mother's day but no card, presents, had to be reminded for a hug but then I thought, well, they are comfortable in my love for them. I don't need cardboard or flowers to know that they love me - they tell me all the time. Why should 1 day be marked for that? Don't get me wrong, I have issues with mother's day and maybe this year the "no gifts/cards" had more to do with the fact that I was hoping for something from bson but, at the same time, I did get to spend most of the morning with one of my raised kids and the other called me later in the day to cry on my shoulder and get advice - maybe the real reason for "mother's day". Take time to reflect on how important it is to be there for anyone.

Anyway, long post, sorry, but I'm going to take your position - I will, from now on, celebrate mother's day by being a "better" mother instead of thinking how I may have been ignored. I usually try to be positive, but I have to say this day as been brutal for the last 28 years and maybe that's the problem - too much emphasis on the wrong thing!

[quantum]

Nah, I'm having too much fun wallowing in self pity!
:-)

What a positive way for me to start my Tuesday! Thanks Oceans.

[Oceans]

Nah, I'm having too much fun wallowing in self pity!

lol Q: You and me both but I am trying to think positive... Work with me Glad it's over to be honest....

[quantum]

Originally Posted by Oceans

lol Q: You and me both but I am trying to think positive... Work with me Glad it's over to be honest....

I'm a trying here! :-)
M&Ms helped a little, not with my diet of course!
I've got one Mother's day left and that one my mom is going to be here, urgh.
I mean! it's a PERFECT chance to be GRATEFUL.

How's that?

[Oceans]

LOL Q!! Three MD's are definitely 2 too many!!