[Oceans]

Paige – Just when I thought nothing was going to pull be out of pre-mother’s day, feeling sorry for myself, lazy, funk today – I read this.
Sometimes a little anger is the best thing to get you up off the couch lol

This goes on more often than we think in this day and age. I about went crazy a few months ago when on a show called “High School Confidential” there was a 16 year old girl who was pregnant. Much of the show focused on her Mother's actions and reaction. It was the PERFECT example of what NOT to do. I blogged about it if you want to read: Road To Reunion and Other Stuff: High School Confidential

Lord… I hope no actual parents of pg girls were out there taking notes….

Not to take anything away from Raven’s book (which I would read in a heartbeat) but someone needs to write a handbook for parents of pregnant teens. I am a bmom and when in that situation…. I was clueless. I handled it better than most but I still made mistakes (in retrospect). Try googling info as the parent of a pg teen…. Darn near nothing!!!! And much of the very little that is out there comes from agencies - or heaven help us... Dear Abby...

When I turned here for support and help I was jumped on a few times. I would have left but there was no where else to go… In the end, I’m glad I stayed (obviously) but if you ask me… Parents of pg teens are a seriously under educated and under counseled part of the triad (OK – not officially a member but you know what I mean when it comes to young teens).

What sex education is to teens, “what to do if your child gets pregnant” should be to parents… especially when nationally, the statistics are that about 1 in 25 teens give birth (not get pregnant… give birth…). Scary…

I think I need to go clean something now!! LOL

[xxsurroundedbyxy]

Raven~
Ya know. We all don't even have to write her. I can and just direct her to this post. No telling how many replies will be here by the time she sees it!
Kim

[RavenSong]

Originally Posted by xxsurroundedbyxy

Raven~
Ya know. We all don't even have to write her. I can and just direct her to this post. No telling how many replies will be here by the time she sees it!
Kim

Kim, I think that is a fantastic idea!! I don't think she even has to sign up as a member just to view the thread. It would be nice, though, if she did sign up and interact with us here on the thread.

Thank you for doing this! I don't have an email address for Dear Abby, but I "think" her home paper is the Chicago Tribune. I could easily be wrong on that though.

[RavenSong]

Oceans, I just read your blog on "High School Confidential", and I am totally appalled! To think that Justine's mother is a social worker, for pete's sake! If you ask me, the selfish person in that family is the mother...

Everybody, be sure to click on the link to Ocean's blog. It's really an eye-opener...

[thanksgivingmom]

I also wrote on my blog once about the "punishment" aspect when a talk radio personality...of course he took a next step and called for mandatory placements for young girls that are pregnant as a means of punishment, but I just can't get past the fact that it's acceptable to use a young girls pain to teach a lesson to others! Disgusting!

I’m Angry and Speechless « I Should Really Be Working….

[paigeturner]

We should start a thread..."What not to do if your teen is pregnant." But not tonight.

Oceans and TGM...I'm blown away by your blogs. OMG. We need to start that thread soon.

Oceans...if you still need to clean...I think we live fairly close! hint, hint.

[RavenSong]

TGM, I just read your blog, and I am horrified, to say the least. Who is this radio commentator??

As far as mandatory relinquishment in cases of teenage pregnancy, I remember reading that the Texas State Legislature considered such a move shortly after George W. Bush became president. I never heard anything else about it, so I'm assuming the state legislators changed their minds.

I hate narrow-minded, bigoted people, just totally hate them...

[thanksgivingmom]

His name is Tom Lykis and he is a vile, vile man. Believe me, what I wrote about barely scratches the surface of his disgusting thoughts on women and pregnancy. Don't even get him started on single motherhood.

[paigeturner]

I wondered if it was Lykis. What a jerk. My DH used to listen to him. Because he thought it was funny when he was stuck in trafic to think about how ticked off I would be if I was in the car listening. Don't know if he still listens...if he does he doesn't admit it. What I hate about him the most is that all girls are tramps and all boys chumps...

My heartrate is climbing just thinking about him.

[bromanchik]

Originally Posted by Oceans

Not to take anything away from Raven’s book (which I would read in a heartbeat) but someone needs to write a handbook for parents of pregnant teens.
LOL

Someone has. It is called "Mom, Dad...i'm pregnant." -When your daughter or son has an unplanned pregnancy. by Jayne Schooler. It's excellent.

[thanksgivingmom]

Paige, I know. I have to admit that sometimes I listen just to see while vile thoughts he's spewing now...and I used to when I was an argumentation major so that I could practice finding the flaws and fallacies in someone's logic He's full of ridiculous arguments and horrible tactics that he uses to make it impossible for someone engage in a fair discussion with him.

[Alicia...]

That is insain. I can't belive how the mother reacted and how she wrote about her daughter. I'm very thankful that my parents were supportive of me when they found out. but stories like that are why some teenage girls Hide it for so long. I was so scared i hid mine for several month because i was so terrified of how my parents reaced becuase of stories like that, so that article is also affecting teens who are pregnant and reading that.

[JustPeachy]

I hear you Alicia! I was afraid to tell my mom and avoided it for a bit, but she found out (bdad's mom spilled the beans as he told her first), and I had to face the music. My mom was upset at first, but after getting the intial shock out, she calmed down. We didn't discuss it anymore that evening, but the next day she calmly sat down with me and we talked about my options (all of them). I was already pretty well set on adoption, having come to that decision on my own, but my mom never made me feel ashamed or bad for being pregnant! I certainly didn't need to be locked in a room, hidden from other family, sent to a home, or forced to birth my child if I didn't want to. I thank God every day my mom allowed me make my own decision and supported me in it.

[quantum]

It's stuff like this that got me to lose respect for the Dear Abby/Ann Landers columns years ago.
Makes me feel quite ill actually.

[Alicia...]

Originally Posted by JustPeachy

I hear you Alicia! I was afraid to tell my mom and avoided it for a bit, but she found out (bdad's mom spilled the beans as he told her first), and I had to face the music. My mom was upset at first, but after getting the intial shock out, she calmed down. We didn't discuss it anymore that evening, but the next day she calmly sat down with me and we talked about my options (all of them). I was already pretty well set on adoption, having come to that decision on my own, but my mom never made me feel ashamed or bad for being pregnant! I certainly didn't need to be locked in a room, hidden from other family, sent to a home, or forced to birth my child if I didn't want to. I thank God every day my mom allowed me make my own decision and supported me in it.

I was prettymuch in the same situation, but nobody told my moom, i started to show and she cornered me and asked me and i started crying, so she knew the answer. But i truely feel for girls who have to go through having parents like the girl who's mom wrote in to dear Abby, its tough enough without all that.