[bromanchik]

What they are describing isn't open adoption. Not only that I can bet you that the only reason they are open to meeting you now is because someone advised them to do it. They do not have an open heart. Please consider another couple or parent. I have lots of written information on truly open adoptions. Please contact me if you are interested.

[Chelstar]

I think you should definitely find different adoptive parents. As the birth mother you have rights too. I think it is a huge indicator when they said they were too busy to see you, that they do not respect you and don't want anything to do with you after they get that baby. It is very important to find adoptive parents that are on the same level with you as far as contact goes.

I have a very open adoption plan with my son's parents. I get to see him basically whenever I'm in their neck of the woods, they call me once a week to tell me how he's doing, and he will always know that I am his mom. Then again, my adoptive parents are two dads. From my experience, gay parents are much more likely to be open and concerned for YOU. Not just getting your baby. I don't know if that is the right choice for you, but it is a suggestion!

Good luck.