[mygrl4meee]

Wow!!! I just read this entire thread. I think you are just great. I think if you guys can continue having a good relationship, it will help her cope with losing a child to adoption.
My daughter who I lost to adoption will be 17 years soon, and one thing that bugs me the most, is plain lies and no consideration for my feelings.
I hope everything goes well for M.C. She is lucky to have you.

[djvj]

this thread has really touched my heart. i think you have been able to walk that miniscule tightrope between compassion and co-depence. i hope your chid's bmom continues to respect boundaries and that she really uses the opportunities you are giving her to grow, heal and stablize...i think it looks (at the moment at least) like you have been able to work through a difficult situation and find a positive outcome and i want to extend my admiration and respect for your success.

best of luck to all involved

[mondk]

She is begging me to let her stay for labor day; they get a 4 day weekend that is a free pass. I told her yes on one condition: that she buy all the food for that weekend (she has over $300 in food stamps) which would make up for the gas to go get her and take her back. She readily agreed.

I also decided we were no longer going to pay for her cell phone, but we decided to put her on our cell phone plan...I'd rather pay an extra $20/mo. on our bill than $70/mo. on hers plus she is getting more minutes with our plan. She will have to change her number yet again but that is a small price to pay I feel.

Anyway, I'm going to go get her on Fri. the 28th...

Blessings, Michelle

[mondk]

Another update: M.C. called me a couple nights ago and she was elected "student of the month" there at Job Corps. I'm not exactly sure what she got from it...she was saying something about now she gets to be some kind of aide there...the cell phone connection was static-y so I couldn't make all of it out.

Anyway, she and her boyfriend are doing fine. She wants to come here sometime this month but I'm having some job problems (trying to find one, I was forced to resign and have a possible lawsuit pending because I feel they discriminated against me because I have a bipolar disability, big long story) so I told her definitely for Halloween we'd come and get her and her boyfriend too. We all plan to dress up...Joshie is going as Elmo...he has 2 Elmo dolls that he HAS to sleep with....I'm going as a witch, Brad is going as a werewolf and Claire is going in 1950's attire. We should really make for an interesting group!

This is also a bump for anyone on the other forums who might want to follow my story.

Blessings, Michelle