[CBPRP]

You have a generous heart.
Is there anyone at your church who maybe able to take her in for a time?
Help is needed for this young woman and I say help her but not in your home and do not give her money. It will start to feel like you are paying her for her baby.
An outfit sure and manicure for sure...
Find all the help you can and encourage / pray for her - not in your home.

[mondk]

Sorry I haven't been here...I've been just exhausted the past couple of days...

Anyway, Mommy Claire made it to Ohio in one piece. She was bubbly and exuberant on the phone so things sound okay now anyway. However, she gave me the wrong street addy for me to send her money to. I just hope the post office figures it out and it goes back to her or comes back to me. I hope they do get it and not someone dishonest who would keep it for themselves. I have the tracking number, so will check it out here in a bit.

I've had one of those I call them "sick headaches" where you're dizzy and queasy and don't want to get out of bed. So I'm heading back there....just wanted to update you all....

Blessings, Michelle

[Oceans]

That is good news! Thanks for the update... YIKES - I am soory you are not feeling well! Stay hydrated!

[mondk]

She called yesterday and she got the money...I'm so relieved. I was so sick yesterday I barely remember her calling at all. Apparently, my mom and hubby also called and I have absolutely no recollection of it. My dad and other older son took care of Joshie for me. The only thing I remember is throwing up.

I'm much better today!

Blessings, Michelle

[RavenSong]

Michelle, I am so glad you're feeling better. It sounds like maybe you had the flu?? I know it's ravaging parts of the country right now.

I am also glad to hear that Mommy Claire got the money you sent her. I hope everything goes okay for her in her new home. Please let us know how she's doing. I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

[mondk]

Well, Mommy Claire called last night and she is not fine...big long story but I'm trying to get her to go back to FL to a womens' shelter. I have this feeling that she really wants me to say "come here and live with us". I told my mom all about it and my mom who is an absolute sweetheart and giving person put out a hypothetical "what if" she could come and stay with her. Then she recanted when I told her the many problems with that...but I appreciated her offer. My mom, like me, hates to see anyone have to live on the street...especially the mother of her precious grandson.

I so wish I could win the Powerball!

Will keep you all updated...

Blessings, Michelle

[SuddenlySusan]

I'm so sorry to hear that things are not going well for Mommy Claire. This must be agonizing for both you and your mother. My thoughts are with all of you.

Peace,
Susan

[rainmon]

so were those people in Ohio really who they said they were, just nice people, wanting to help?....or was it a scam or what ??

[mondk]

Well, the people in Ohio are a husband, wife, and 1.5 year old baby boy. The husband seems to think that he can have his wife and have Mommy Claire on the side (sexually). He has allegedly told his wife that Mommy Claire is a lesbian so she won't suspect him of cheating. There are also other problems connected to these people but it is a very long story...

She hasn't called or emailed...I'm getting ready to go to work now. I'm getting worried but she said her cell phone may be shut off at any time. I told her to call me collect. I just hope she will make a good decision instead of trying to "stick it out" there. KWIM?

Blessings, Michelle

[Oceans]

Oh my goodness Michelle!! At least it can be a lesson learned for her and not the worst of situations (yet) that we all feared. Hopefully she will get out ASAP - Ohio has shelters too.

I hear you about Powerball (LOL) but I'm not sure if that would really help her.

Is there anyway to get her focused on the future? What were her plans prior to her pregnancy? Was she planning on College? What did she want to be when she grew up - What were her dreams? I know that setting a goal is incredibly hard when she is struggling for day to day survival - after all survival IS the goal, but I can't help but think, she needs an attainable long term goal and a plan.

Any chance of her working on one with you? Also, has she applied for any services, they may be able to help her get a job.... at least give her some structure...

I feel so bad for you and Mommy Claire but I glad she has you to worry about her....

[rainmon]

well.... "IT IS" what I feared, a pervert preying on a young mixed up girl.....he could do a lot of damage to her in every way and in just a short time..... she needs to give you an address so in case she goes silent or disappears you will be able to give the police there somewhere to start....he could tell his wife she left, and keep her held captive somewhere....or keep her on drugs so she has no idea whats going on.... she's got to get out of there. that man has had a lot of time to think about this and plan....no telling what and how far he will go on this ......
a shelter for women would be the best place for her to go, immediately.

[bromanchik]

I agree! Get her a shelter in OH> Call me if you need help locating one. I am going to PM my numbers to you.

[mondk]

Well, she hasn't called or emailed yet; she was supposed to let me know what she wants to do this past weekend. I left her a voicemail and emailed her both...I know she was still there as of Sunday because I called one of her Jax friends and she said she had talked to her on Sunday.

I wonder if she is avoiding me because I told her she needed to go back to Jax and she has decided to stay and put up with everything. I'm thinking that this is what is going on. Perhaps she fears I'll be disappointed in her?

Will keep you all posted...I googled shelters in Jax and found some decent ones.

Brenda: Thanks for your numbers; if I can get her out I will give you a call!

Blessings, Michelle

[mondk]

Mommy Claire called tonight we talked a while on the phone. She is doing better and currently looking for a job...there is more to the story but it is late and I'm heading for bed so I'll post more tomorrow.

Blessings, Michelle

[Chelstar]

I just wanted to say that I think you are a great person. As for the issue of inviting her to stay with you, if it is still a consideration, I don't think it is a bad idea at all. People are very wary of birth mothers and adoptive parents becoming involved because it is still new territory. But just because it is unprecedented doesn't mean it is wrong. In fact, as a birth mother myself I think it is more important than anything. I hope you or someone else can help her. Just remember that everyone has to make their own path, and learn from their own mistakes. Don't be hurt if she doesn't necessarily want your help right now. Don't put the world on your shoulders, either! You have a beautiful baby to put there.