[ssshhh]

I made contact with my birth daughter in January. Since then, I have received a letter and a couple of phone calls from her and her mom (mostly). She has a lot going on as she just had a baby. It was great talking with my birth daughter and her mom and they called when the baby was born to let me know everything was ok.
Here is my problem.
I sent a gift to my birth daughter and her mom a month after the baby was born. It was just something to pamper themselves, since all new moms and grandmas need that. Well....I sent it to their old address!! I did not receive it back so I think whoever lives at the address now may have kept it. Not only am I so mad at myself, I am also in a bind because I do not want to call and ask if they received the package. I am afraid if by chance it was forwarded to her, I may be looked at as wanting something in return, which was not my intention.
On the other hand, if they did not receive this package and the letter enclosed my birth daughter may feel like I am pulling back or have no interest in her or her baby.
What should I do? It has been over a month since I sent this out. It has been 2 weeks ago that I realized the stupid mistake I made.

[SuddenlySusan]

... really... just call and inquire. My aunt just emailed me last week to see if I had received a package from her. I did receive it, and I thought I sent an email to her to let her know and to thank her, but as I checked my "sent" emails I found that I had not.

I was glad my aunt inquired... I'd hate for her to think that I wasn't raised any better than that. It gave me an opportunity to acknowledge receiving the package and to apologize for being tardy with the thank-you's. It also sparked another conversation with a few more letters.

Perhaps you might receive an update on everything, as well as making sure the package arrived safely.

Nothing wrong with a followup call, ssshhh...

Peace,
Susan

[SchmennaLeigh]

Call and explain, point blank. Explain it like you have explained to us and that you just want to make sure that everything was received because you DO care, no strings attached.

Let us know how it goes.

[ssshhh]

I read your replies today and called. I left a message and they called back.
I told my birth daughters mom about the package and apologized for sending it to their old address. They did not receive it. Of course my husband hopes that whoever lives at that address now is allergic to bath and body works.

I can not think about any of that....why?.....because once again intuitive people on this board knew what you were talking about! I received an UPDATE on everyone and an INVITE!

My birth daughter asked if I wanted to come to see them. They had a date set up before they called me back! I will be visiting before the end of the month.

Family members had said to call but for some reason I needed to hear it from someone in the adoption triad. I did not expect all of this. Pinch me please!
Thank you for your replies. You do not know how much I needed to hear from people with the experience!

[SuddenlySusan]

Glad to hear things worked out, ssshhh! Have a great visit, and take lots of pictures!

Best wishes,
Susan

[Moongrl22]

I think it would be a good idea just to ask if they got your package in the mail. Their is nothing wrong with asking. Just let her know you were thinking of her during this joyous moment of her life and you thought of sending her something special. It's okay. Don't talk yourself out of it. Believe me it's very easy to do! Good luck to you!

[ssshhh]

Hi Moongrl,
Yes, I did call and ask about the package. I am very happy to say that because of that call I have met my birth daughter and her family! They also received the package the same day I was there! I do not know how, unless they know the people who live in their old house. It all worked out and I thank people on these boards for helping me keep things in perspective. It all seems like a big deal in my mind when in reality, it does not have to be. Thanks again.

[SuddenlySusan]

How wonderful that you were able to meet your daughter, her afamily, and her new baby! Plus, they DID get your package. How are you feeling, grandma? LOL!

Best wishes,
Susan

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by ssshhh

Hi Moongrl,
Yes, I did call and ask about the package. I am very happy to say that because of that call I have met my birth daughter and her family! They also received the package the same day I was there! I do not know how, unless they know the people who live in their old house. It all worked out and I thank people on these boards for helping me keep things in perspective. It all seems like a big deal in my mind when in reality, it does not have to be. Thanks again.

How did the visit go? How are you holding up?

congratulations