[lilraskels]

Is there something that can be done by the adopted parents that would of make the reunion easier? I am a mother of four of which three are adopted and my oldest is 16 years old. We have talked about finding her mother (my husbands aunt) to talk. We want to help her but her mother wants nothing to do with us. So I am wondering from experience is there something we can do that one has experienced that could make the reunion easier? Or positive? Thank you so much for your view on this for us and our family.

[notjustanykatie]

lilrask, I suggest you do not do this til the kids are 18. From what I understand from your other posts these kids were taken from a bad situation (foster)...My cousin was horribly hurt when she found her bio"mother" and she was the same (prostitution, drugs..etc). I really don't think a child can grasp the realities of adoption until they are older. Being a teenager is hard enough without having to bring bio drama into it. Honestly, my adopted children will not be aloud to contact their bios until they are able to do it themselves....then I will support them--and they're gonna need it!

[Jackiejdajda]

I say wait till they are adults and then allow them their freedom.. with love..
Let them decide..

We are all so different..

And how kind you are..

Jackie