[quantum]

I told my parents when I was 6 months along and on my way home for a long weekend. They sort of supported me, never tried to push any other decision on me, but they did push a particular doctor on me who was very old school 'closed, move on, forget about it.'
Which it felt like they did.
I never could or wanted to.
I wish they could have given me more emotional support and aid.

It's almost been harder now that I'm in reunion and have told them. I still feel like my pain is ignored.

[Free_to_be_me]

I told my parents and my siblings that I was pregnant, but did not tell any of my extended family until about three years later. My parents were incredibly supportive and did not give me even a hint about which choice they wanted me to make. I don't think I could have managed without my parents support.

[lahdh4]

My ex ended up breaking down shortly after her placement and told his sister and mother. He was in a deep depression and in it while they were watching 24 hours he told them. He told his stepdad one night before she was born and he told us that we were making a mistake by planning an open adoption. He said we wouldn't heal and that it would be better as a closed adoption.


(((HUGS))) Brenda, hope that Matt is able to come over and enjoy his birthday with you.

[browneyes0707]

My ex apparently spilled it to his parents sometime before her 7th birthday. I just remember that's when he told me matter of factly that his parents knew. And were against me for what I did. That's all he shared.

And they say women can't keep secrets.....

[MrsHoot]

The only people who knew, besides my co-workers (couldn't really help that) were my best friend and her boy friend (who she eventually married)...she too was pregnant - she married boyfriend and kept her child.

I kept my secret from everyone else (except the men I married) for many years. I told my grandmother (she raised me and was Mom to me) about 10 years ago - we had a short conversation about it and it was never mentioned again.

After that I waited another 12 years to tell anyone else and would have waited even longer but I made email contact with BD about a year ago and felt it was time I told my Mother (who I am geographically close to).

I still haven't told everyone in my family about BD yet...mostly because the ones I have told reacted exactly as I expected them to 22 years ago...and let's just say it is far from supportive

[thanksgivingmom]

Originally Posted by browneyes0707

And they say women can't keep secrets.....

Who says that? Bring these people to me and I will prove them wrong! haha