[Withay]

...to the firstfamily's feelings.

Brief background. It looks as though my fc firstfamily may relinquish the wee one for adoption due to many things that I won't go into right now. Suffice it to say that they love this precious child deeply, but realize that they most likely cannot raise it.

My question, for all the firstfamilies, is if you (as the firstfamily) were in this situation how would you feel if the foster family asked if you would like to have professional portraits taken of you and your little one? (Of course, I would pay for them)

I feel such empathy for this family and truly wish things could work out differently, but it does not appear that this will happen. I want to be sensitive to their feelings, while giving them the opportunity to have a beautiful portrait of them with their little one. Of course, I have to clear all this with the cw, but wanted to see if you thought that I should pursue this idea at all.

After the adoption, I plan on having continued contact with the first family (we only live about 30 minutes from each other). I want this child to know their firstfamily and know how much it is loved. This has already been cleared with the cw. If you like this idea, what about an annual portrait?

Thanks for helping me with this.

Blessings

[SchmennaLeigh]

Munchkin's parents had portraits taken of us on our first visit and we do it once a year now. I treasure them all.

[InBlindFaith]

If it were me....I would absolutely LOVE it!!!

[Withay]

Thanks, like I said, I just want to be very sensitive to their feelings.

[quantum]

I wish that I'd had that option! It's a lovely idea.

[browneyes0707]

So thoughtful of you to think of that, not only for the firstfamily but for the child

I'd loved it!

[josh1788smom]

I think you sound like a thoughtful and caring person.

Great idea!! I'm sure they will all be very touched.

[krystabelle]

As the only pictures of myself with Finleigh are in the hospital - I would love to have pictures with my daughter, period. Professional or not. I want her to know I was there afterwards...for her to be able to look back and see the expressions on my face when I'm with her.

You are so sweet and truly thoughtful for wanting to do that for them.

[thanksgivingmom]

I'm with Krystal. I only have one polaroid of me with DD in the hospital. I would cherish forever the opportunity to have photos like that taken.

I think your offer reflects your sensitivity immensely.

[Rifilanna]

What a sweet lovely thing to do.

[Withay]

Staffing is to take place shortly and then I will have more of an idea of what will happen.

I did have a chance to talk with the cw and he agreed with my idea. His only concern was that some of the extended family that really would not be appropriate to be around this child unsupervised may try to push their way into the portraits. He said it would be best if it were the little one and firstmom only.

Thank you all for your encouraging words.