[SchmennaLeigh]

Originally Posted by cls2445

There are all kinds of people....hard to believe someone would do that...but look at the years many of us have pretended not to be birth mothers.....My DD was born in 1963 and just this year have I been able talk about the experience.

Again, there's a difference. Did you do so out of emotional necessity? What would be the emotional necessity of pretending to be a birth mother? Did you do so because you were told it was the best way by an agency or social worker or family member? What would be "best" about pretending to be a birth mother? The list goes on.

Pretending not to be a birth mother is associated with denial, hiding from the shame and wanting to preserve some semblance of normalcy in your life. I'm not sure what kind of normalcy is brought INTO one's life by pretending to be someone who is constantly left in a negative stereotype by society.