[ModernDayBradyBunch]

I'm going to cross-post this so that I can get all the advice I can get.

Last week, I received a couple of medical bills in the mail from my pregnancy. I sent them straight to the agency so that they could be paid by my son's aparents.

I got a phone call yesterday. My son's aparents refuse to pay them. My son's aparents are saying that because it's been more than six weeks after his birth, they WILL NOT PAY THEM! The caseworker told him that I should not be responsible for medical bills for a child that I am not raising. My son's adad told her that if I have a problem with it, I can talk to him directly, but that that they are not going to pay them and they don't have to pay them. (She said he was kind of being a jerk about it)

What am I going to do? I thought that all unpaid medical bills would be paid! I can't afford this! They KNOW I can't afford this! I contacted the hospital and doctor and was told that if they aren't paid by the end of this month, they will be sent to collections!

Did any of you have to pay your own medical bills? What should I do???

My son's adad said that if I need to hear them say that they aren't going to pay them, I can contact them directly. So...Our contact agreement says emails, but I looked them up today and they do have a listed phone number. I'm considering calling them...even though our contact agreement says email...I'm so upset. Is this a good idea??? I just don't know what to do and I'm freaking out!

[flowerchildA]

If they had given birth they would pay these bills. These are bills for their baby, they should pay them!! Strange, how people get with money issues!! I hope it works out!

[Vogi2002]

This is OUTRAGEOUS!!! 12 weeks after my son's circumcision I recieved a NEW BILL from the hospital!! I HAD TO PAY IT!! Of course I did!! They OR YOUR AGENCY needs to pay, no questions about it!

[InBlindFaith]

Don't go to the aparents.

I would have the Agency pay for the bill, they are your "Middle Man". The Agency can go to the aparents, I'm sure they have some kind of contractual agreement.

In the meantime, contact the hospital. Explain to them that you reliquished your rights. Maybe they can tell you what proof they will require to bill the Agency??

[SchmennaLeigh]

I paid my own medical bills for labor, delivery and hospital stay for both myself and the Munchkin which also didn't come within the six week period that your sons family is supposedly setting for medical bills. (In fact, I don't think we've ever had a medical bill that came before six weeks with our current hospital but that's neither here nor there. They're remarkably slow.)

[enerad]

We paid for our adopted children's medical bills and their birthmom's bill. The bills should go to the agency, and then the agency works with the adoptive parents. Our agency paid the bill, and then we paid them. Federal law states that adoptive parents shouldn't be discriminated against, and their medical insurance should pay the child's bills. Your expenses have to come out of their pocket. We signed an agreement prior to taking our children home stating that we would pay for the medical bills. Like the last post... don't go to the adoptive parents, work with the adoption agency, attorney, etc... This shouldn't be your responsiblity.

[opalwench]

A couple months (yes, months) after our birth-daughter's birth, we recieved several bills for her. We had already paid the deductible for my portion of the bill, but because we placed niether of our insurance plans covered her. Because we didn't sign our rights away immediately, her aparents insurance didn't kick in until we did sign.

The aparents in our case are family (my fiance's sister and her husband), and they offered after much back and forth to pay half of the bills. The lawyer who we all used told that they didn't need to pay anything from before and also told us that they would take care of it. Nobody was very pleased and my credit rating is taking a beating, but we (my fiance and I) are slowly paying.

We tried explaing the adoption to both the hospital and the debt collector, but we didn't get any help there.

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by ModernDayBradyBunch

I'm going to cross-post this so that I can get all the advice I can get.

Last week, I received a couple of medical bills in the mail from my pregnancy. I sent them straight to the agency so that they could be paid by my son's aparents.

I got a phone call yesterday. My son's aparents refuse to pay them. My son's aparents are saying that because it's been more than six weeks after his birth, they WILL NOT PAY THEM! The caseworker told him that I should not be responsible for medical bills for a child that I am not raising. My son's adad told her that if I have a problem with it, I can talk to him directly, but that that they are not going to pay them and they don't have to pay them. (She said he was kind of being a jerk about it)

What am I going to do? I thought that all unpaid medical bills would be paid! I can't afford this! They KNOW I can't afford this! I contacted the hospital and doctor and was told that if they aren't paid by the end of this month, they will be sent to collections!

Did any of you have to pay your own medical bills? What should I do???

My son's adad said that if I need to hear them say that they aren't going to pay them, I can contact them directly. So...Our contact agreement says emails, but I looked them up today and they do have a listed phone number. I'm considering calling them...even though our contact agreement says email...I'm so upset. Is this a good idea??? I just don't know what to do and I'm freaking out!

get a lawyer, tell the agency they had better pay.. that this is morally wrong on so many levels..


want a baby, steal it


sheesh

[krystabelle]

I cannot believe their attitude about this! It's simply awful of them to do this. It's not right.
I've just now received all of the final bills from the hospital because my insurance was so slow to process and pay the claims. How on earth can they justify in their minds what they're doing?
And just so you know, I've been told that they cannot send it to an outside collector if you've at least paid something on it. Even if it's a small amount it still counts as having something paid on it and it won't be sent to the collection agency. That's my understanding. I would definitely talk to the adoption agency and light a fire under them to get it taken care of. (so to speak, not literally...sorry...texan talk)
(((hugs)))

[ModernDayBradyBunch]

I actually talked to my son's amom directly and we had a WONDERFUL conversation. I was scared to death to call her (as that is not in our agreement) and shaking and crying, but she was very sweet and we worked out the problem. She wasn't aware that the agency had told me this. The medical bills were paid in full today.

[Vogi2002]

YAY!!!! Good for you...I bet she was nervous too. So I wonder if the agency made it out to be worse than it was then? Either way..WHOO HOO! Good for them for taking the high road.

[ModernDayBradyBunch]

I definitely think I shocked her by calling! (She had a listed number, so it wasn't hard to find) I apologized and told her that I was sorry for not following the agreement and that I will respect our email agreement in the future but that I was just freaking out and had to solve this. She was so nice and comforting to me, I was amazed. And then today I received an email from her with a picture of my bsons FIRST SMILE!!!! I can't begin to express how much that touched me...I'm on cloud nine just seeing his tiny face lit up like that.

[bromanchik]

Originally Posted by ModernDayBradyBunch

She wasn't aware that the agency had told me this. The medical bills were paid in full today.

Makes me wonder if the adoption agency called at all.... UGH!